Janesays Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 I figured it might be fun to have a positive thread, for a change, where we all talked about the things that make our SO's so special. Sometimes, I think I have the best boyfriend in the world. I was married before, to an impatient, selfish man who ultimately left me for another woman after cleaning out all my bank accounts and secretly spending my life savings. Because of this, I've become a little neurotic and over cautious when it comes to men and I over analyze EVERYTHING. The way my boyfriend handles me when I get nervous is amazing. He is so patient and loving that it just blows my mind. He is so different from every other guy I've ever been with who cares more about their ego and maintaining the 'upper hand' than they do about the person they're with. In the past, whenever a guy has made a stupid thoughtless mistake with me, I have stressed and analyzed it and related it back to my husband's behavior to the point where I didn't want to continue the relationship. However, with my current guy, I simply have to say, 'When you do X, it makes me feel like Y.' He always thanks me for telling him, encourages me to keep being 'open' with him, then he tells me how he saw it, apologizes for hurting my feelings, tells me that he'll handle it differently next time, and then talks about the positive aspects of our relationship and how special it is to him. I mean, how freaking perfect is that? He's so calming and soothing and patient that it just makes me want to sex him up for hours. So what does your BF/GF do that totally amazes you and makes you feel happy and in love?
Allisha Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Genius idea. I hope this thread becomes as successful as the "post here instead of contacting your ex!" thread in the break up section of the forum. *bump*
Cee Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 My boyfriend is amazing about being my support and companion. Last weekend, I was supposed to go another state for my aunt's birthday. I didn't invite him because it was a long trip and they were extended family. The night before I went he offered to go along to keep me company. We traveled by multiple trains for 5 hours, which included walking a mile in the heat to the restaurant. He was friendly and charming in a room full of strangers. After 14 hours on the road, he invited me to stay the night with him. The next day, I went back to my apartment to find it was robbed. He had me spend the night at his place and he played a movie for me to watch and cuddled with me. Basically, he spent the entire weekend taking care of me with not one complaint or bad mood. My boyfriend isn't big on fancy dinners, expensive presents, or grand gestures, but the way he is my daily companion is what sets him apart. I love him to pieces and am the luckiest woman on earth.
vsmini Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Congrats CEE! My boyfriend has really opened my eyes to what a caring, mutually fulfilling and respectful relationship should be. My needs are taken care of - never questioned or challenged - almost effortlessly. My boyfriend works hard, is kind and treats people with dignity and respect. He makes time for us and keeps up consistent and quality communication. Most importantly: He's someone I truly admire and look up to as a person. I feel very lucky to have him in my life. He's the kind of guy that makes you look back on that one ex that broke your heart and makes you say "WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING BEING UPSET OVER THAT GUY? I MUST HAVE BEEN LONELY AS HELL TO MISS THAT IN MY LIFE."
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 However, with my current guy, I simply have to say, 'When you do X, it makes me feel like Y.' He always thanks me for telling him, encourages me to keep being 'open' with him, then he tells me how he saw it, apologizes for hurting my feelings, tells me that he'll handle it differently next time, and then talks about the positive aspects of our relationship and how special it is to him. I mean, how freaking perfect is that? He's so calming and soothing and patient that it just makes me want to sex him up for hours. So what does your BF/GF do that totally amazes you and makes you feel happy and in love? My BF does that exact same thing. He also treats me as a truly equal partner. He involves me in every aspect of his life. We are a real team and so much stronger than each individual. He cares for me when I am sick, he tells me all the time how much I mean to him. He gives me foot rubs after a long day at work. He made me a copy of his apartment keys and told me that I can drop by at any time. When I told him about a girl I am jealous of on his volleyball team, he offered to kick her out of the team (I declined). It's just everything. From practical things he does to me, to verbally telling me how much he loves me, to buying me small thoughtful gifts, to making sure I am never cold or uncomfortable, to looking and smiling at me from across the room even when he talks to others in a group setting.
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 My BF does that exact same thing. He also treats me as a truly equal partner. He involves me in every aspect of his life. We are a real team and so much stronger than each individual. He cares for me when I am sick, he tells me all the time how much I mean to him. He gives me foot rubs after a long day at work. He made me a copy of his apartment keys and told me that I can drop by at any time. When I told him about a girl I am jealous of on his volleyball team, he offered to kick her out of the team (I declined). It's just everything. From practical things he does to me, to verbally telling me how much he loves me, to buying me small thoughtful gifts, to making sure I am never cold or uncomfortable, to looking and smiling at me from across the room even when he talks to others in a group setting. Is this the same guy who met up with his ex-gf behind your back or is this a new guy.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Is this the same guy who met up with his ex-gf behind your back or is this a new guy. It is the same guy but he never met up with her behind my back He ran into her and her friends while out on a boys night and both groups had drinks together for about an hour. During that time, he mostly talked about me and how nervous he was about meeting my parents the next day. He told me about it the next day (post parents meet) and showed me text messages that fully confirm his story.
cerridwen Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 My boyfriend is amazing about being my support and companion. Last weekend, I was supposed to go another state for my aunt's birthday. I didn't invite him because it was a long trip and they were extended family. The night before I went he offered to go along to keep me company. We traveled by multiple trains for 5 hours, which included walking a mile in the heat to the restaurant. He was friendly and charming in a room full of strangers. After 14 hours on the road, he invited me to stay the night with him. The next day, I went back to my apartment to find it was robbed. He had me spend the night at his place and he played a movie for me to watch and cuddled with me. Basically, he spent the entire weekend taking care of me with not one complaint or bad mood. My boyfriend isn't big on fancy dinners, expensive presents, or grand gestures, but the way he is my daily companion is what sets him apart. I love him to pieces and am the luckiest woman on earth. Wow, Cee. Congratulations. He sounds amazing!
jerry050321111 Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 My boyfriend is amazing about being my support and companion. Last weekend, I was supposed to go another state for my aunt's birthday. I didn't invite him because it was a long trip and they were extended family. The night before I went he offered to go along to keep me company. We traveled by multiple trains for 5 hours, which included walking a mile in the heat to the restaurant. He was friendly and charming in a room full of strangers. After 14 hours on the road, he invited me to stay the night with him. Microsoft Office 2007 Microsoft Office 2007 Variations Microsoft Office 2007 Intreasting
Cee Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Wow, Cee. Congratulations. He sounds amazing! He is pretty great and I'd love to talk more about him on this forum, but I don't know where to post it. The dating forum seems to be more about questions and challenges. The one thing that has been common in all of my good relationships is that I have been inspired to become a better person. Not in terms of looks, but in terms of having more to offer to my friends, workplace, family and community. Love with my current boyfriend overflows and spills into the way I live my life. It seems my former idealism to change the world has been revived and I am back to working toward that aim.
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 My BF does that exact same thing. He also treats me as a truly equal partner. He involves me in every aspect of his life. We are a real team and so much stronger than each individual. He cares for me when I am sick, he tells me all the time how much I mean to him. He gives me foot rubs after a long day at work. He made me a copy of his apartment keys and told me that I can drop by at any time. When I told him about a girl I am jealous of on his volleyball team, he offered to kick her out of the team (I declined). It's just everything. From practical things he does to me, to verbally telling me how much he loves me, to buying me small thoughtful gifts, to making sure I am never cold or uncomfortable, to looking and smiling at me from across the room even when he talks to others in a group setting. Just reminiscing back to the good old days before your bf cheated on you with hot Eastern European chicks.
zengirl Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I came in here to say why my BF was great, but just saw it got bumped due to ES's hardship bummer so I won't drone on. Still . . . what a nice idea it was when it started and how nice all those guys sound. My BF was super awesome tonight. I have been a little bit sick and he came over and brought me homemade organic chicken soup with carrots and celery from his own garden. I thought that was the cutest.
thatone Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 (edited) got recently set up with a family friend, and so far really struggle to see anything wrong with her. physically she's exactly my type, has one degree and working on a second, and is pretty much in the same situation i'm in. she likes classier entertainment and activities but lives in a lower class area so she can save money, and thus is limited in her prospects. i'm in the same situation since i'm a city person and most folks in my age around where i live are outdoor types, and the nightlife in my city isn't nearly what it is in the city she lives in. plus since i knew the family beforehand i don't have to worry about any unforeseen red flags due to her upbringing, they're all pretty classy people. i travel between two cities quite a bit and she lives in the one i don't. i find out after the fact that she was working 10 days straight while i was there (they rotate weekends amongst the management at her job) and she was agreeing to go out every other day to accommodate me because i made the trip. that's definitely different, to meet someone so selfless. she got a bit testy due to being tired toward the end of the second date, and as i was reassuring her that i appreciated her spending that much time on me and would completely understand if she wanted to wait a few days before getting together again, and i could come back to the city she lives in anytime if the work was too much for her that week, she all but tongue strangled me before i could finish my speech . confidence in women is too sexy, isn't it? after couple days apart to catch up on sleep she was initiating dates, even to the point of us getting soaked downtown in the rain last friday on our way to a restaurant i wanted to go to, and she wouldn't agree to just cancel it and head somewhere else despite me offering to, she knew i wanted to go so she kinda soldiered on. i must admit after a string of self centered drama magnets i don't really know how to act with someone who is so easy to get along with. for the first few days i was waiting on the big gotcha, whatever it was, but it never came. i didn't push too much for sex after such a short period of time since she was sort of stressed about the massive work schedule combined with making time for me, we went out the last day before i was planning on heading back home and after dropping her off at her place i pretty much just told her exactly what i thought of her and said "so tell me you want me to come back" and after one of those seemingly endless kisses she says "see you in a couple of weeks", and that's how we left it . so i guess the lesson is even for someone as cynical as i was after meeting a few terrible women recently, there's always one good one left somewhere. Edited July 27, 2011 by thatone
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