Coolcat276 Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 First off, I am glad to see that such a site exists. I have read many threads and I must say, heartbreak is tough. I was in a 2 + year relationship. I am also the one that has been Dumped. Its been just over 3 months since we have actually talked, my last conversation was me trying to save the relationship, looking back, I wouldn't have taken me back (Begging, pleading, etc.) On the advice of others, "If you love her, go and get her", well it didn't work to well, I would never suggest this when emotions are high, I didn't do anything stupid, I just wasn't the confident man that she met and was attracted to when we first went out, our last conversation was me looking and acting weak. I am now at the point where I am letting false hope slip away, I am at least accepting that her contacting me again is out of my control. Productivity at work has gone down over the past few months but not enough for anyone to notice. I have been having anxiety attacks (Take a low dosage of xanax if need be, which I have never had to do in my life). I never knew what these were until I had one, WOW!!! I talk to a therapist twice a month, joined all the dating websites (with no real interest in dating). I am not sure if I am a big believer in "you just have to get back out there and start dating" but I also realize that I do have to move on. Aside from this, I try to keep as busy as possible, working out, new hobbies but there is still a huge gap of time during the day where I miss her. Most of my friends and family think I am doing well besides the chosen few who I have decided to open up to. I still avoid situations where I could still get questions about the relationship. I know I will get through this, i am disappointed (Not angry) that I wasn't given a second chance, especially if the reasons that she shared with me were true, She felt like I stopped caring a few months prior to the break up, I do believe this to be true but I also think it had a lot to do with us not moving to the next step. People who knew us were very surprised that the two of us broke up, for all intensive purposes, 99% of the relationship was excellent, I speak with complete confidence that she felt I was the one if I was willing to go the next step, which I would have, I just never felt any pressure. As far as I know, there wasn't someone else. I have been around long enough to know that someone was probably waiting in the wings, I don't ask anyone that is connected for many reasons, the biggest reason is my own well being. To be honest, I would take comfort in the fact if I knew she was still thinking about me on a daily basis, my guess she is much farther through the process especially since she was the one who ended our relationship. Besides NC and Keeping busy, I just have to ride this out, any other suggestions? I am just tired of being tired of this feeling. Are all these normal feelings? I feel week, not confident, anxious and not as outgoing.
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