TaintedHeart Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Ok, this is going to sound stupid, but I'm really tempted to go on to a dating website that my ex is using to have a look at her profile, I know it will hurt and will probably set me back days. Why haven't I got any will power? I sometimes wish the internet never existed
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Don't do it... you are right, it will set you back. You don't want to know what she has been up to, especially on a dating website. Basically when you feel these urges to cyber stalk your ex you subconsciously want to see their world in shambles and in most cases want a sign that they are coming back. There is NO hope in finding these things on a dating site. And 99.99% of the time you wouldn't find these signs on a social site either so DON'T DO IT.
batsheba Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 noooooo DO NOT. it will hurt even worse than the original break up. try to post your own on that dating website, how about that?
0hpenelope Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Ok, this is going to sound stupid, but I'm really tempted to go on to a dating website that my ex is using to have a look at her profile, I know it will hurt and will probably set me back days. Why haven't I got any will power? I sometimes wish the internet never existed I think you have more will power than you think. You logged on LS to let us know, right? You know... I say go ahead and look. Because eventually you'll hit the point where you'll get tired of feeling the pain. And you'll realize that you need to do something about it and put in more effort to make a change. Then you'll have more resolve to stick with it. So yeah, go ahead and have a look/see. To remind yourself why NOT taking a peek, for a while or forever, is a good choice for you.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 I think you have more will power than you think. You logged on LS to let us know, right? You know... I say go ahead and look. Because eventually you'll hit the point where you'll get tired of feeling the pain. And you'll realize that you need to do something about it and put in more effort to make a change. Then you'll have more resolve to stick with it. So yeah, go ahead and have a look/see. To remind yourself why NOT taking a peek, for a while or forever, is a good choice for you. Isn't it going to cause me more pain though?
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 Don't do it... you are right, it will set you back. You don't want to know what she has been up to, especially on a dating website. Basically when you feel these urges to cyber stalk your ex you subconsciously want to see their world in shambles and in most cases want a sign that they are coming back. There is NO hope in finding these things on a dating site. And 99.99% of the time you wouldn't find these signs on a social site either so DON'T DO IT. I see your point. Oh I know her life isn't in shambles. I don't even know why I want to look :/
livy07 Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Isn't it going to cause me more pain though? Of course it will. Why don't you get out? Go to work? Visit friends? It seems you've been on the site nonstop You need to get out of the house and distract yourself from this. Posting over and over that you're heartbroken is not getting you anywhere.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 noooooo DO NOT. it will hurt even worse than the original break up. try to post your own on that dating website, how about that? I'm not ready and there is a chance I will stumble across her profile, so...
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 Of course it will. Why don't you get out? Go to work? Visit friends? It seems you've been on the site nonstop You need to get out of the house and distract yourself from this. Posting over and over that you're heartbroken is not getting you anywhere. I don't mean to get on anybody's nerves. This site is helping me, people's opinions are helping me. I have other personal problems, which is why I haven't been able to get out much. If my threads bug you, don't read them..
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 I would but it's nearly 12am. Bed time for me soon..
0hpenelope Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Isn't it going to cause me more pain though? Of course it would. But it hasn't stopped people from peeking anyway. I'm all for NC and all, but sometimes people need to remember why they chose NC in the first place. Hopefully you won't look but if you do, you'll remember why you need to stay NC. good luck
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