confusedcarly Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 firstly im size 18 at 5'8 so i feel like i do hold it off. but i dont feel like men look at me because im bigger. is losing weight really the only way to find happiness???
Feelsgoodman Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 firstly im size 18 at 5'8 so i feel like i do hold it off. but i dont feel like men look at me because im bigger. is losing weight really the only way to find happiness??? Let me put it this way: with your size, there is no downside to losing weight.
somedude81 Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Wow three threads on the exact same subject? And then you proceed to ignore all the guys that tell you that men are not attracted to big women. Are you going to keep making threads till somebody tells you what you want to hear?
Confusedalways Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Open your eyes-- there are people who are far uglier, and far fatter than you who are in loving relationships.
ivalm Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 So I presume you look like this: http://pinkpiddypaws.files.wordpress.com/2011/06/perfection.jpg If not.. then better loose weight.
93TheHitStick Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Yah you are mad fat. The only dudes who will ever look twice at you are chubby chasers and dudes who are fatter than you. Even my fat friends have skinny girlfriends. You need to hit the gym. I wouldn't say its the only way you will find happiness. But unless you want a dude who is bigger and more gross then you you gotta drop the weight. How much do you weight exactly? I mean you can lose 100 pounds in less than a year. I lose 60 pounds in 3 months last summer. Mind over matter. Goodluck.
AngelDollFace Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Few things: I am in pretty good shape, pretty, smart and well rounded and I have been dating for the last four years and keep finding myself in relationships that don't lead to marriage for whatever reason. My friend who is very, very, very overweight didn't even have a boyfriend when I started dating after my divorce and she is already married and has been for almost two years now. I don't think size has anything to do with it honestly. There could still be someone out there for you. Keep in mind that if you aren't going to be "perfect" you can't expect "perfect" but NOBODY IS "perfect". Also: Love seems to be like a lottery... sometimes you win and sometimes you don't. I've felt that familiar pang of slight jealousy whenever I see someone who looks happily married. I am a people watcher and I look for those sorts of things... and I see women of all shapes and sizes happily married. Just put yourself out there. You can't meet anyone if you don't get out there and try... In the end: I truly don't believe weight is an issue for everyone. Sure, some people will care... but some people won't. If it were all about looks... I'd be happily married and I am so far from it that I can't even convey it to you. It's hard for all girls... not just you. Keep your chin up.
Valid Sintax Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 That depends on what you think will make you happy. Is being in a relationship with a man going to make you happy? Isn't happiness more complex than that? Isn't there more to life? I can speak from personal experience that life as a thin or in shape person is much happier than life as a fat person. Part of that is due to dating, but most of it comes from the fact that I feel much better about myself as a person. Regardless of whether someone else loves me, I love myself (...and I do so every day ) Most people that are as overweight as you are (and as I once was), are fat because they are stuffing their emotions with food. Deal with the stuff that is cause you to do that or maybe just choose to lose the weight and get in better shape. But, either way, find some path toward losing weight and I think things will start to improve life overall.
Knittress Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Life is easier as a thinner person. Most people don't see much deeper than the image project to them, and folks tend to correlation attractiveness with all sorts of unrelated mental/emotional attributes. People are way nicer to you too. It's trippy. I'm not saying you have to lose weight to have a decent life, but from a certain perspective it makes sense to make the best use everything you've been given in life. You go to school to improve yourself, right? Well... losing weight might even be a more dramatic employment advantage than a degree.
quankanne Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 is losing weight really the only way to find happiness??? confidence is everything. There are people out there who don't really consider weight a huge factor in a relationship, though there *is* the whole health issue at hand when excessive weight is involved, but that's a whole 'nother ball of wax. ignore the people who give bad advice about only being "worthy" if you're thin – they reflect a small portion of the population. Mostly, people want to know "Is this a good woman/man? Is this someone I can trust my heart with?" Because while looks are what first attract us to someone, it's something far, far deeper that keep us around ... because when you base a relationship on that kind of trust, weight is less of an issue than you think. I lose 60 pounds in 3 months last summer. Mind over matter. I think you're nuts – because unless you had surgery or were deathly ill, this is not a healthy goal for anyone.
snug.bunny Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 My female friend is overweight, and she found love and is happily married!
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Forget men. Let me ask you this: Are you happy with what you see when you look in the mirror?
oaks Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 is losing weight really the only way to find happiness??? No, but if you're overweight then there are health benefits to losing weight and your knees will thank you later in life.
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