NicoleM Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I am seeing this guy things were going great and Wednesday things got weird. He was very moody and wasn't in the mood and kept on getting grouchy. He said the dreaded word let's be friends and see where it leads and then he backpeddled and said well if you want to still keep on hanging out and going out on dates we can do that but we have to know each other better. Why all of sudden is he acting so weird?? Why were things going so great but then something happens?? My mind is so confused right now.
Author NicoleM Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 No we have only been dating a month. He said he cannot promise commitment which I understand it's only been a month.
KathyM Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I am seeing this guy things were going great and Wednesday things got weird. He was very moody and wasn't in the mood and kept on getting grouchy. He said the dreaded word let's be friends and see where it leads and then he backpeddled and said well if you want to still keep on hanging out and going out on dates we can do that but we have to know each other better. Why all of sudden is he acting so weird?? Why were things going so great but then something happens?? My mind is so confused right now. Hard to say what's going through his mind, but I'll take a guess. It sounds like he wants to put you back to friend status instead of dating status, and he's getting the idea you're not the one he wants, but he doesn't know how to let you down nicely. By being grouchy, maybe he was thinking that would make his rejection of you easier for you to swallow. Doesn't look promising.
Author NicoleM Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 He certainly enjoyed the sex. I guess he liked the whole sex thing but doesn't want to be BF/GF but still wants to be friends.
KathyM Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 He certainly enjoyed the sex. I guess he liked the whole sex thing but doesn't want to be BF/GF but still wants to be friends. Most guys won't turn down any sex that is being offered to them. But don't allow yourself to be used. You deserve more.
sm1tten Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Sounds like he is not interested in continuing to date you and just doesn't want to say so. He's throwing the "friends" word and the promise of future dates at you to keep you from making him feel bad.
Author NicoleM Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 He did say he wants to continue to date just get to know me more. We started out physical and really haven't gotten to know each other. I think he threw in the friend thing just because he wants to get to know me more but when I said dating he said we just got to get to know each other more. It seems like there is this awkwardness now and it feels weird.
GiselleDiann Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 It seems like he is not interested in having anything serious with you. Don't waste any additional time on him as he seems to be confused. You need to take matters into your own hands and put him on the back burner. Continue living your life and dating other men.
sm1tten Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 He did say he wants to continue to date just get to know me more. We started out physical and really haven't gotten to know each other. I think he threw in the friend thing just because he wants to get to know me more but when I said dating he said we just got to get to know each other more. It seems like there is this awkwardness now and it feels weird. You could be right, however the way I understood your posts was that he wanted to be friends, then he backpedaled to "let's keep dating" after you indicated you wanted to keep dating. Most guys aren't going to have sex and then want to slow it down to "getting to know each other," whatever that actually means. At the very least he might only want to casually date you.
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