TaintedHeart Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I'm sleeping a little better now, but I still dream of my ex every night. It's the morning's that I still can't deal with. In the first week I was having panic attacks as soon as I woke up. The panic attacks have stopped, I think that's down to the ani-depressants I'm on. But I still feel sick and think about my ex as soon as I open my eyes, knowing that I'm never going to see the one person I love more than anything again cut's me up inside, it actually feels like somebody is twisting a knife into my stomach. How do you cope in the mornings? What's the first thing you do to try to stop this pain? Sometimes I just lay there and let the pain eat away at me, I know I shouldn't do this, it's like I'm punishing myself.
fauxleather Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Get up, do a quick shower or something. You work? I usually just focus on work to take my mind off anything else that's gonna hurt me.
wilsonx Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I fully agree with homebrew's post. Everything on there is 100% accurate. I am a big contributor here because it helps me cope internally. I am a little bitter sometimes but if you read my first ever post here and the posts I am making now, you can see a huge change in how I see things and how I am growing from what happened to me. People that do these things that wise people post on here actually do grow and become better people. The thing is you have to go out and do it. People come here to find out what happened, whats going on and this place is a wealth of knowledge and full of experienced people. We help people out, they help us out. I have listened to 100s of people's advice from coworkers, friends, family and to be honest, I have never been in a situation like this before. I made decisions based on bad advice and I made decisions based on good advice and I know right now where I stand as I have learned from my decisions, not the decisions of others including my ex I am not going to lie, relationships have always been my struggle to maintain. At the same time, I have come to the realization that I am probably chasing the wrong type of people if I want to be in a relationship. So as of right now, I am changing this. Where I lack in one area, maintaining a healthy relationship or finding a healthy partner, I have vast experience in building friendships, communicating, reading people, intuition, education, and attraction. I am an extremely positive person and I realized last night that the positive end of a magnet attracts just the opposite. Thats why the saying nice guys finish last is true. I have to reset myself in the middle where I use to be and become the gentleman, sir wilson that I lost over the past 2 years. Thats why sometimes when a relationship ends, its actually one of the best things that could ever happen to you. Once you get into this mindset, tell yourself this everyday and start moving forward, you will be better off. The pain will still be there and that just takes time
CaliBabe Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I feel you Tainted, how long has it been now? What I try to do is try to be optimistic. Even though I am feeling like total crap I try to keep a good attitude as much as I can around my friends and family and soon, it will become apart of you. Do exactly as homebrew says, those are all great things. I want to really stress getting out, even though that is the last thing you wanna do, it really helps. Make plans with friends, family and just get out! Make sure your doing some form of exercise every single day. Endorphins are your friend. I know it sucks, it still sucks for me, but we will get through this stronger and better people. You can never appreciate the good things until you experience the bad.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 I feel you Tainted, how long has it been now? What I try to do is try to be optimistic. Even though I am feeling like total crap I try to keep a good attitude as much as I can around my friends and family and soon, it will become apart of you. Do exactly as homebrew says, those are all great things. I want to really stress getting out, even though that is the last thing you wanna do, it really helps. Make plans with friends, family and just get out! Make sure your doing some form of exercise every single day. Endorphins are your friend. I know it sucks, it still sucks for me, but we will get through this stronger and better people. You can never appreciate the good things until you experience the bad. 3 weeks I think, I've lost track of the days. I have been getting out but all I think about is her! 'I wish she was with me' 'We had a great time here, this time last year' 'Wish I was going home to her' Argh! It's never ending
wilsonx Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 The more you follow homebrew's advice and other peoples' advice on these forums, the easier it gets. Keep yourself busy.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 I do listen and follow everyone's advice on here. That's why I keep posting threads
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 Been reading through your threads. Very helpful. Thank you! Have I? :/
Chuck Bartowski Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 The more you follow homebrew's advice and other peoples' advice on these forums, the easier it gets. Keep yourself busy. Agreed! I have taken a lot of peoples advice to heart and I feel better each day. Homebrew's advice is particularly helpful. And yes, get involved with others here, we are all supporting each other and that kinda/sorta makes a family. We got your back.
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