Caezar Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Hey everyone! I recently got back into Online Dating on OKC and I got an email back from a girl but I don't know how to respond to it. If it were my guess, she was just being friendly in responding and isn't interested. What do you guys think? I wrote her about 6 or 7 sentences and asked a few questions about her profile. Here's what she wrote: "Hey, those pictures DO exist! I just came here for a change. I like city life. I don't really have a favorite summer activity....I'm more of a fall/winter kind of girl. Thanks for the message!" I take this as she's not very interested or she's not very interesting, lol
Casablanca Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I think she is not very interested.... This...if she doesnt ask anything about you, she isnt interested and not worth your time
oaks Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 It sounds like she's answered whatever questions you asked, but not given you much else to follow up with. I suppose you could talk about fall/winter activities and see if she bites. She's either clueless about how to communicate by email on dating sites (which pretty much everybody is to start with) or it's a rejection. Or both.
Author Caezar Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 I basically told her I thought a couple things in her profile were funny and asked some questions about it. I also talked about how I liked how she mentioned people disappearing and ignoring you after a couple dates if they aren't interested and agreed that people should just tell you straight up they aren't interested. I told her I appreciated her honesty and that I'd like to get to know her more. I asked her what brought her to the city and what her favorite thing to do in the summer was. Her response didn't garner much interest from me, especially since I was expecting more of a response based on how much she actually wrote in her profile. She did respond just a few minutes after I emailed her though which I took as a sign of interest, but her response seems week and I'm not in the business of trying "win over" anyone. I'm looking to just get my feet wet again and if I think someone is a potential good match I'll go with it and date them.
Author Caezar Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 I know men hate to be turned down, but this is just a reply on the Internet. GO ahead and write some more. Wait till she clearly say YES or NO. What do you have to lose? Thirty seconds writing an email???? Thanks for the insight. I'm not worried about being turned down at this point as much as I'm wondering if I SHOULD reply to this. It seems a little weak for a response. I don't want to pull teeth to make conversation here, I feel like it should just be easy to talk to someone. If I have to think harder about how to reply to an email because she didn't ask any questions back, I start wondering if this is someone I would be interested in.
sm1tten Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Either she has no idea how to express interest, she's not interested, or she wants you to do all the work. Either way I wouldn't respond.
KathyM Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I don't think you should get discouraged that easily. I don't think her response reads as someone not interested. Some girls act a little aloof at first so they don't appear overly anxious. If her profile is nice and she sounds like someone worth getting to know, I'd continue to talk to her. Until you get a message that is a rejection, I'd suggest continuing to talk to her.
mtber75 Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Simply ask her if she's interested or not. She probably get lots of emails so short replies are normal in these cases.
rafallus Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 She tells you about herself, so she gave you material to bite on. You can try to cold read sth about her given, what she said, or ask, what she likes about colder seasons so much. You may figure out sth cool about her that you like, that you find fascinating. I see some opportunities there.
Author Caezar Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 She tells you about herself, so she gave you material to bite on. You can try to cold read sth about her given, what she said, or ask, what she likes about colder seasons so much. You may figure out sth cool about her that you like, that you find fascinating. I see some opportunities there. What's STH?
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