GG3 Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I have a couple of friends that want people to envy them. One has full out admitted it, the other made comments. She will post things she is doing on FB all the time because she says she needs to show everyone she is having a better time than them EVERY day. The guy friend has been very difficult to be friends with. He has made comments over the years "People envy me." (But I don't think they do.) He tends to hang out with guys who have less than him and seems to brag and spend a lot of money to impress them. I used to date this guy. I don't think I can be friends with him anymore. I feel like he tries to make me jealous...which he did throughout our relationship. Anyone known people like this? Seems like a lot of work to me.
TaraMaiden Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 he also gave an example with a guy in it.... The guy friend has been very difficult to be friends with. He has made comments over the years "People envy me." (But I don't think they do.) He tends to hang out with guys who have less than him and seems to brag and spend a lot of money to impress them. I used to date this guy. I don't think I can be friends with him anymore. I feel like he tries to make me jealous...which he did throughout our relationship. I guess you missed that whole paragraph.....
TaraMaiden Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Butt you are indeed. And a butt that speaks is commonly referred to as an @$$hole.... Nope. Have you nothing better to do than to insult women on these forums?
TaraMaiden Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 It's amazing how you can say so little, and yet - mean so little.....
vsmini Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I usually view those types of people as very insecure. I don't have much use for them and generally they get my pity - not my envy. Agreed. I don't envy anyone who has to worry constantly that they're being perceived as "perfect" It sounds exhausting. Sadly - the people that post how GREAT their lives are on FB come off as so insecure and everyone knows what they're doing. These kind of people are usually very self-unaware and look like morons. Envious? I think not. A person who is truly enjoying their life and values their self worth never has to advertise it. Those that do advertise are seeking validation because they can't get it from within.
KR10N Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 he also gave an example with a guy in it.... I guess you missed that whole paragraph.....Donate to the literacy foundation. MarsVodka needs our help!
cerridwen Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I usually view those types of people as very insecure. I don't have much use for them and generally they get my pity - not my envy. Agreed. The insecurity is seen a mile away. IME, the most secure people are the most humble and quiet about accomplishments and possessions. I always think, when I encounter a consistent braggart who constantly declares how wonderful their life is, "Are you trying to convince me? Or you?"
sm1tten Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I dated someone like this. I don't know if it was/is so much that he wants people to be jealous of him but that he wants people to think he has this amazing life, tons of friends, and is so happy... when really he's a miserable, insecure, socially awkward person.
Finch Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 We all experience a little bit of envy from time to time. And most of us can acknowledge that having someone envy us once in a while can make us feel good as well. The key is once in a while. When someone purposely and consistently attempts to get others to envy them they may be looking for false validation. Like Jazzari said, it probably stems from insecurity - they desire valuation (in this case, in the from of envy) from others because they can't access self-worth on their own. I agree with cerridwen: who are they really trying to convince? Most likely themselves. Constantly trying to one-up everyone else around you in order to incite envy seems like it would be exhausting. And those type of people are exhausting to be around. Who wants to be friends with someone like that? Not me, not interested.
Author GG3 Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 I usually view those types of people as very insecure. I don't have much use for them and generally they get my pity - not my envy. That's how I felt the last couple of incidents. How sad that that is what it's about about for some people.
Author GG3 Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 We all experience a little bit of envy from time to time. And most of us can acknowledge that having someone envy us once in a while can make us feel good as well. The key is once in a while. Yes exactly! A lot of good points posted here. I don't think you can truly be friends with someone who is constantly doing that. How do you ever connect with the real them?
NoReallyThatHappened Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 I'm always amused by the people who present the "perfect" face to the online world. I don't believe any of it because I know that no one has such a perfect life.
thehead Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 I'm always amused by the people who present the "perfect" face to the online world. I don't believe any of it because I know that no one has such a perfect life. Yup. There are a couple of those here and I shake my head each time they post along those lines. Give it a rest already. You're embarrassing yourself.
Dazdnconfuzed Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Life will eventually tell the truth, squat and take a huge peanut engulfed **** right in there face. I have encountered many like this in my life. They are also extremely afraid of getting close to anyone in attempts to never get exposed of their ordinary life. OMG PEOPLE MIGHT NOT LIKE ME OH NOES!!!!
Blade96 Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 My ex was like that. He has degree certificates up the wazoo, and a ton of karate medals. when i first walked in his house and saw i was thinking Is this guy compensating for something? Turns out he was. Low self esteem, no friends, just acquaintances aa controlling personality, and severe dependence issue Nuff said.
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