green_tea Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 A few months ago, I met this guy (call him Dave) at a weekend away for a friend's birthday. He is the friend's husband's brother. He's divorced, and at the time had a girlfriend of a month or so (call her Kate). She was there as well, and nice etc. During the weekend, there was some attraction between him and I (just looks etc, nothing happened). He even mentioned, while I was present that he didn't think it would last with this gf. I didn't think that was a very nice thing to say behind her back.. But anyway, the weekend ended. I did think of him a little after that - even sent him a FB request, but then felt guilty and cancelled it before he had a chance to respond to it. Haven't heard from him since then, but was talking to the friend about my last bad date (previous thread). She then mentioned how Dave really liked me and went on about me all the time. I said isn't he still with Kate? I'm not getting involved while there's still a gf in the picture. Then I heard her say in the background to her husband, Dave needs to get rid of Kate (or something like that...). So last night I had a FB request from Dave, after we'd both commented on the friend's status. I saw from his friend's list that his gf is not on there anymore. So I'm guessing they broke up - recently. I feel like it's got something to do with me and my comment about not getting involved with him while a gf was in the picture, and I'm feeling guilty. Especially as I am not sure if this guy and I are even compatible, despite the attraction. He is a heavy smoker, and he also has 2 children. I am also worried that if I do see him a few times and I decide he's not right for me, that my friend will think badly of me...he is her brother-in-law after all. To top it all off, I've got this other guy pursuing me as well - friend of another friend...I'd have already gone out with him, if it wasn't for his age (he's almost 10 years younger.. but I am thinking about giving him a chance after all). So I guess my question is.. am I to blame for the first guy's break up.. and will they all think badly of me? Sorry this turned out really long.. thanks for reading..
hamidurgeb Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 http://www.cupid.com/aff.php?a_aid=8b6c51b0&a_bid=1e197281
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