zoecha Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Hello! I'm new to the forum because I just began my LDR a few hours ago. My boyfriend and I met through a friend 6 months ago and since then have been inseparable. I go to school about an hour and a half from where he lives, so every weekend he would pick me up and take me back to his house. Aside from that, we talk on the phone for hours every night and text all day. I went to prom with him last month after staying at his house for a week once school got out. I live in Florida, so afterwards I went back home, and today he just left to go back home to New York after a 5 day long visit with me. We know we're young, but we also know we want to be with each other and no one else. We've always been long distance, though that distance has never been too far, so I can't say I've really ever considered it that until now. My boyfriend is about to embark on a gap year program that will take him out of the country for a year. Today I had to say goodbye to him...knowing that I won't be able to kiss him or feel him or see him in person for, well, longer than we've actually been dating. He has lots of friends and things to do where he lives, but I don't have that here to get my mind off of the separation or depression I'm facing. He leaves August 4th, and so I'll have him to talk to until then, but after that we'll probably only be able to talk a few times a week. I'm devastated and heart-broken beyond belief. I can't imagine my life without him, so I guess what I'm looking for here are just some success stories or wise words from others who've been able to overcome similar experiences. We're going to stay together, but the fact that I won't be able to see him for a year feels like it's a break up. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you! Zoe
confusedangel312 Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Hi welcome to the forum. im also in an LDR, mines new as well. i have been in one previous to this, for 6yrs. i know how hard it is to be apart from the guy you love, but at least you can keep in contact on a regular basis, and make the most of it with my relationship previous to my current one, i wasnt able to see him for years at a time, the longest we went without seeing eachother in person was 2.5 yrs but kept in contact by phone/letters. it works if you make it work( that was the best advice i was given and i still stand by it). hope this helps you
Author zoecha Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 Thank you so much! That's the kind of thing I really love to hear. Did you ever feel a sense of...I don't know, hopelessness during the 2.5 years? How did you deal with not knowing what he was doing at all times? I admit, I'm a tad bit possessive.
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