shadowofman Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 So the girl I have been seeing for the past couple months reveals to me that she is (was) a cutter. And that she recently had to fight the urge to do so. Nearly every girl I have ever dated happens to have the same tendency. I new this was common, but it seem rampant in my life. Do I just happen to find these girls?
Trappedinyou Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Sorry Shadow, what is a cutter? Do you mean self-harming?
carhill Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I'd have to go back through your posting history but my first instinct is that you present an aura which these women find 'safe', kind of like you might have had with a favorite blanket as a child, the one you napped with and slept with and wouldn't let go of. It was 'safe'. IMO, cutting is serious business. That's self-harm. In my neck of the woods it could get a 72 hour psych hold. As I would say when I look in the mirror (I've had similar issues, but few cutters), the commonality in this is you (and me). The women aren't going to change. We must change. That's our path if we want something different. Can you think of one thing you could do tomorrow to start? Myself, one thing I've been doing consistently is cutting down on my 'listening' and recommending professional help. It's still a work in progress, as old habits are hard to break but, remember, one day at a time
Recommended Posts