Author D-Lish Posted August 15, 2011 Author Posted August 15, 2011 Well I came down on her for jumping into another relationship so she's no longer speaking to me. I don't understand the whole "I can't be alone thing".
MrNate Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Well I came down on her for jumping into another relationship so she's no longer speaking to me. I don't understand the whole "I can't be alone thing". I think this is evidence that some people in life simply need to learn things the hard way.
Author D-Lish Posted August 15, 2011 Author Posted August 15, 2011 I think this is evidence that some people in life simply need to learn things the hard way. I think it's more indicative of people that can't face reality and don't want to hear it, so they hide from it. When someone confronts them on it, they turtle.
MrNate Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I think it's more indicative of people that can't face reality and don't want to hear it, so they hide from it. When someone confronts them on it, they turtle. Ha, yeah... I wonder how happy she really is on the inside.
Author D-Lish Posted August 15, 2011 Author Posted August 15, 2011 Ha, yeah... I wonder how happy she really is on the inside. She's a mess. But apparantly that's incredibly attractive to a lot of men.
Nexus One Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 She's a mess. But apparantly that's incredibly attractive to a lot of men. Has she accused you of being jealous when you came down on her? Just wondering why she's angry at you. If she's indeed a mess, then why doesn't she see merit in your advice? What's her reasoning for it, if she has any.
MrNate Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 She's a mess. But apparantly that's incredibly attractive to a lot of men. Doubt it. I can see it being attractive to a lot of men for one reason. Being a mess means mental issues. Mental issues, means guys will not invest emotionally and only go after sex, because that's the only value they see. I'd pass on her myself. Until she learns how to be alone, she has many more disappointments in her future.
Author D-Lish Posted August 15, 2011 Author Posted August 15, 2011 Has she accused you of being jealous when you came down on her? Just wondering why she's angry at you. If she's indeed a mess, then why doesn't she see merit in your advice? What's her reasoning for it, if she has any. No, it's not a jealousy issue. She started dating someone new- and it's been less than 3 weeks since her break up- I gave her the speech about learning how to love herself without depending on everyone else to enrich her happiness. She openly admits that her happiness depends on having a guy in her life and she's never been without one since her first realtionship since she was 15. She tells me she's jealous of me for having strength that she doesn't have. Doubt it. I can see it being attractive to a lot of men for one reason. Being a mess means mental issues. Mental issues, means guys will not invest emotionally and only go after sex, because that's the only value they see. I'd pass on her myself. Until she learns how to be alone, she has many more disappointments in her future. People have come down on me for saying this- but she's "average" looking, and I'm just being honest. So many have accused me of being jealous but that's not the case. I just don't get the broken women syndrome. I'm not competing with her for dates, I'm in a higher age bracket. I'm just observing all this and not really understanding why a guy would be okay stepping into a relationship with a girl that is still crying over her ex.
MrNate Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 No, it's not a jealousy issue. She started dating someone new- and it's been less than 3 weeks since her break up- I gave her the speech about learning how to love herself without depending on everyone else to enrich her happiness. She openly admits that her happiness depends on having a guy in her life and she's never been without one since her first realtionship since she was 15. She tells me she's jealous of me for having strength that she doesn't have. People have come down on me for saying this- but she's "average" looking, and I'm just being honest. So many have accused me of being jealous but that's not the case. I just don't get the broken women syndrome. I'm not competing with her for dates, I'm in a higher age bracket. I'm just observing all this and not really understanding why a guy would be okay stepping into a relationship with a girl that is still crying over her ex. Yeah, I see what you mean. You just call it like you see it. I would say with regard to guys who just step in, it's because I think people will ultimately pursue their own agenda without much care to what else is going on. Just another sample of human nature.
Nexus One Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 She tells me she's jealous of me for having strength that she doesn't have. But if she realizes that, then has she given a reason for being angry at you?
Author D-Lish Posted August 15, 2011 Author Posted August 15, 2011 But if she realizes that, then has she given a reason for being angry at you? Well I've been straight up with her, and told her to get to know herself before she jumps into another relationship. She has jumped into another relationship right away, and I showed my disappointment. Didn't go over too well..
MrNate Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Well I've been straight up with her, and told her to get to know herself before she jumps into another relationship. She has jumped into another relationship right away, and I showed my disappointment. Didn't go over too well.. Yep. I know people like her. The only way she will learn is by her own doing. In such cases, no matter what kind of painful future I foresee (and am usually correct) once it hits.. as easy as it is to say 'i told you so', I knew their pride would not allow them to feel like they were wrong- so I just keep it to myself as a way to help them out.
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