Ginger Beer Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I have a few concerns about going no-contact. I tried to post them in Gator's thread to avoid making a new one but it's been locked. Here are my concerns: - Going NC could mean in 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, however long I go NC, I lose her as a friend because it's been too long. - I end up regretting the decision to go NC because I try to speak to her and she doesn't seem that bothered. - Not that I want her back, but is NC for a 2nd time likely to push her away? These are general questions and not necessarily specific to me.
CaliBabe Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I have a few concerns about going no-contact. I tried to post them in Gator's thread to avoid making a new one but it's been locked. Here are my concerns: - Going NC could mean in 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, however long I go NC, I lose her as a friend because it's been too long. - I end up regretting the decision to go NC because I try to speak to her and she doesn't seem that bothered. - Not that I want her back, but is NC for a 2nd time likely to push her away? These are general questions and not necessarily specific to me. NC is really difficult. You have to stick to your guns until you are emotionally strong. All of the above are logical concerns but the only problem is we don't know what will happen. Our ex's don't even know whats gonna happen. They don't know if down the line they really think things through and see their faults or if they don't care enough and just say f*** it. We can only be optimistic. The only thing you can do now to keep your sanity is NC until you are emotionally strong again.
wilsonx Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I have a few concerns about going no-contact. I tried to post them in Gator's thread to avoid making a new one but it's been locked. Here are my concerns: - Going NC could mean in 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, however long I go NC, I lose her as a friend because it's been too long. she broke up with you, why do you want to be friends with her? is your pride worth it, I do not know your story but there are so many other people in the world, do not isolate yourself on one person that ended your friendship in the first place - I end up regretting the decision to go NC because I try to speak to her and she doesn't seem that bothered. what does this mean. It has nothing to do with how she feels. You need NC to detach from her emotionally and rebuild yourself to where you were before you started dating her in the first place. NC is about you healing not about her. - Not that I want her back, but is NC for a 2nd time likely to push her away? shes already gone! she broke up with you. there is no relationship with her anymore. there shouldn't even be a friendship. thats your decision to make after you become indifferent and lose the emotional attachment. These are general questions and not necessarily specific to me. NC is about you, not your ex. The relationship is over. She ended it. Shes moved on. Now its your turn to move on. NC helps you along the way. NC is just that NO CONTACT at all from both parties. if she breaks it, ignore it. if you break it start over.
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