Kickingmyselfinthe Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 (edited) So i've been married for almost 16 years, and we have a 12 year old and a 14 year old. There have been ups and down, obviously..but lately we've been in an extreme down. I started having an affair earlier this year, went half way across the country three time to meet this 'bad guy'..who humiliated and degraded me sexually. My husband, being the complete opposite nice guy was of course devastated when he found out. After a few days of being the completely defeated husband, he admitted that right before we got married and during the first year (while i was busy being pregnant with our first) he had affairs with two different women. During the last 3 months (2011) he had another affair with a client of his..who he still sees on a weekly basis...which consisted of 'extreme sex texting'..and as he put it..as bad as you think it could get..it was worse. His last affair was purely to spite me because he knew i was cheating on him...or so he said. The only reason he ended it was because i noticed her number appearing way too frequently on the phone bill, so i called her up. He bluffed it off as something very different to what it was...though he did tell me that if i hadnt caught it the way i did....things would have gone all the way..that he knew. Anyway, twice i said i ended my affair, and twice i didnt. So the third time around when it came to a head yet again, i did actually end it. He told me that if i did that and if i told him i still loved him in the right way, that he would be willing to try to work it out. Tonight he elected not to come home..see you tomorrow, staying at a friend's house./.kind of thing. So, apparently the difference between our affairs is this..he didnt actually put his dick in any one of their parts..so that makes what he did okay, but what i did...well, i think they burn people like me in hell... So is there some kind of statute of limitations on how long you can hold a man acccountable for having an affair? Stating you've never done that..MANY time..over the 15 years included? I absolutely hate what i have done to him, don't get me wrong. He's devastated, defeated...ill..because of all of this. Me? I'm just numb from head to toe, but it comes off as not caring. Truth is it doesnt feel any less like i'm dying inside for me than it does for him..but someone has to be the adult around here because like i said..we have kids. I dont get the luxuary of deciding not to come home... Edited July 14, 2011 by Kickingmyselfinthe
Sexy T Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I can really relate in a different way. My hubby is always there, kissin butt... lol. I have a lot to say, but I have to go right now. I love my other man sooooo much, but he is so cold hearted!!!! My frickin heart is on FIRE!!!, but I do not say anything. I love this site. I will definitely be back.
Woggle Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Are these women trolls? Please tell me this is the case.
Author Kickingmyselfinthe Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 Dang it...i forgot to ask for pics
Soxfaninfl Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I can really relate in a different way. My hubby is always there, kissin butt... lol. I have a lot to say, but I have to go right now. I love my other man sooooo much, but he is so cold hearted!!!! My frickin heart is on FIRE!!!, but I do not say anything. I love this site. I will definitely be back. Why are you with your husband if you cheat? Why don't you leave him? I want to understand why are you still with him then?
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