U1987 Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I've been having a pretty intensive 6-hr-a-day summer course for the past month. We're having our finals tomorrow, and today, I asked a girl in my class out for a celebratory drink afterwards. We had talked a few times, but we never had a chance to socialize much (no one did in that course; a lecture, lab, lab reports, homework and tests every day; some people had to request a crazy amount of time off work and even turn down job opportunities). I'm trying not to get my hopes up; in fact I'm expecting a challenge. She's a "hot chick;" very tall, very pretty, but one of those kinds of girls who walk around with a bored, cold demeanor all the time; not one to reach out to anyone too quickly, seems very guarded. Do you know what I mean? One of "Those kinds" of girls. Anyway, I had seen some goofy frat-boy in my class made a pretty strong come on to her but she wouldn't have any of it, so it was then I realized I would have to play it smooth with her. Plus from glancing at her a couple of times, she seems to be on her iPhone alot, which makes me worried; I can't tell you how many girls I've dated who texted on our date. A first date is no guarantee, so what's it going to get this girl interested? To get and keep her attention and make her go "wow" on the inside? (Also, what should I do if she texts or flakes on our date?)
Feelsgoodman Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Don't worry about impressing her. Make the date fun for YOU. If she starts texting on her date, tell her straight up that she's being rude (or make a snide remark like "it must be something very urgent"). If she flakes, she's not interested, so forget about her.
Author U1987 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 Any idea's/suggestions on how to get inside this girl's head; shake thing up a bit? I've heard that really hot girls are actually pretty self-conscious on the inside. Any ideas on how to use that to my advantage?
alphamale Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 A first date is no guarantee, so what's it going to get this girl interested? To get and keep her attention and make her go "wow" on the inside? probably a Ferrari and expensive dinner...
runner Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 how about you take her off the "hot chick" pedestal and focus your attention on the dynamic between the two of you ? you sound like you're about ready to pick petals off a flower chanting, 'she loves me, she loves me not...' it really isn't that difficult, man. keep it fun, keep your cool. and certainly don't come off as desperate.
one goal Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Sounds like the case with me and the super hot chick I sit next too. I asked her out twice and no dice and she's single. I'm going to try again soon though!
Author U1987 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 it really isn't that difficult, man. keep it fun, keep your cool. and certainly don't come off as desperate. Really? I thought you're supposed to deliberately act as desperate as possible.
runner Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Really? I thought you're supposed to deliberately act as desperate as possible. yep, works like a charm
Feelsgoodman Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 probably a Ferrari and expensive dinner... Ferrari yes, expensive dinner no. The worst thing you can possibly do is position yourself as a rich chump who can be used for expensive meals, gifts, vacations, etc. All you are doing is giving the girl the motivation to dangle the sex carrot (without actually giving you sex) as long as possible while she's milking you to the max. The trick is to turn the tables on her and make her think that she'd be able to benefit from your wealth in future if she puts out first... All of this is an aside, of course, as it doesn't look like 1987 is a Ferrari kind of guy. To 1987, my advice is simple. Interesting conversation, confidence and good humor are the three components of making a good first impression. Using pick-up artist tricks to try to get into her head is not likely to work, unless you are a master at manipulating women (which it doesn't sound like you are).
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