RickG Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Hello, I have been single for the last year and I recently got out of a relationship with a woman that suffered from severe depression and put me through hell because of it. Lately all I been meeting are woman that suffer from some sort of depression, I am not depressed however I am not perfect by any means but I dont want to be a victim of someone elses depression. Does anyone think I am being shallow or lame for this?
delilah123 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Dasein that's ridiculous, depression is caused by a chemical imbalance, you can't say that if someone is depressed it's just because they aren't exercising or sleeping well! OP I do think it's fine if you would prefer not to date someone with a mental illness. Same way I prefer not to date guys who are super into fitness. As in it's a preference and you cant have that held against you.
OldOnTheInside Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Lots of day to day feelings are caused by a "chemical imbalance" such as infatuation, love, jealousy, etc. I stand by what I wrote 100% and if anyone thinks they are depressed and wants to know how to get rid of it without pills, I will be happy to tell you, that's offtopic though. There are a very few disordered depressed folks who need the meds and serious care, most of the rest is dishonest pill-peddling. Listening to self-absorbed people whine all day, it's no wonder shrinks blanket prescribe depression pills. What are your qualifications in the area of psychology? And how much experience do you have dealing with the people who have psychological disorders? I'm just curious... OP, my ex-wife suffers from MDD. While I don't regret the relationship, it did cause quite a few complications. So no, I don't think that you are being selfish...just being careful with who you date.
OldOnTheInside Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 None, and that might mean something if psychology were a legitimate field of practice. Any other business with the success rate of psychology would have been shut down by the government as a scam decades ago. Alright... I dunno why you even have to ask this though OP. I swear, some people worry too much about what other people think. Having standards isn't necessarily a bad thing, especially with all the issues that arise from depression. Just wait till you date a bipolar woman...
Enchanted Girl Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 WTF?! How can all the girls you've been dating be suffering from depression? Did they say that or are you projecting this onto them because of your bad past? Did they actually say,"I struggle day to day with a mental disorder: depression" or did they just say,"I'm sad today" and you panicked?
carhill Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Does anyone think I am being shallow or lame for this? If you find their demeanor, behavior, words or actions to be unacceptable, then discontinue with them. Leave the clinical diagnosis to a professional. If a woman tells me she's depressed, I ask what her treatment plan is and which psychologist/psychiatrist is managing it. Treating/diagnosing the brain is like treating/diagnosing any other part of the body; it requires competent professionals. I interfaced with a lot of them while caregiving. You're dating, not caring for a mentally ill loved one. Make the right choice for you. They'll manage.
bigmomma1974 Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I live with Bipolar and severe depression comes with this. I am medicated and seeking treatment and seeing a therpist. I will be the first to admit I am not the easist person to live with. Sometimes I can be so depressed and there isnt even a reason for it. So if you choose not to date someone that has depression that is your decison, It takes a good loving man or woman to stand by someone with a mental illness. It isnt easy.
grkBoy Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Hello, I have been single for the last year and I recently got out of a relationship with a woman that suffered from severe depression and put me through hell because of it. Lately all I been meeting are woman that suffer from some sort of depression, I am not depressed however I am not perfect by any means but I dont want to be a victim of someone elses depression. Does anyone think I am being shallow or lame for this? No. I mentioned in another topic that men should not mess with "damaged goods" women, "broken" women, or women with loads of baggage. You're looking to date, be happy, have fun, fall in love...not be her therapist. If dating someone becomes a misery, then it's not worth it. Most of the "broken" women I've met were the usual story. Possibly a father who never loved them and a propensity to date jerks. Now they're a mess and can't handle life. Run for the hills...do not think you can "fix them" and then end up with a hot girlfriend. Chances are she'll friendzone you and go right back to her old ways. I think men need to learn to love being alone in the sense that they will choose to be single and sexless before they choose a broken female. The same goes for women and men who are "damaged", "broken", bitter, etc.
Author RickG Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 WTF?! How can all the girls you've been dating be suffering from depression? Did they say that or are you projecting this onto them because of your bad past? Did they actually say,"I struggle day to day with a mental disorder: depression" or did they just say,"I'm sad today" and you panicked? No, I asked questions and watched them. one woman I dated got very drunk off of two large glasses of wine and come to find out later she had been taking depression meds and had the wine.
thatone Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 None, and that might mean something if psychology were a legitimate field of practice. Any other business with the success rate of psychology would have been shut down by the government as a scam decades ago. http://www.scientology.org/ ?
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