conehead Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 I met my new boyfriend online. I don't want to tell my family nor my coworkers that's how we met. We want to make up a story. Please don't post in this thread just to tell me NOT to make up a story....please just post if you have any good ideas on how to not tell people we met online. One common idea is to say we met through friends....but in that case, what happens if they ask 'which friends etc?'. It can get a snowball effect quite easily. If you have a way around this, please let me know Another idea is that we met randomly at a store or coffee shop...but that just doesn't sit well with us either as it's just not something people picture us doing and will believe us. Any other ideas?? Thanks!!
Rinas Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 I had met a BF online before, on a super nerdy game. To this day I tell people the story as it's a good laugh. Online dating is more acceptable now a days anyway. However, if you choose to lie about it, tell them that you met through a mutual acquaintance and have them back it up. Or tell them you met at a friends party, and it went well from there.
oldguy Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Tell them you met at an AA meeting. I love it. Would it be easier to tell them you met at a club?
Afishwithabike Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 I have a co-worker who got engaged to a man who lives on the other coast. She's a big city girl. She hasn't been to that state let alone the very rural area where he lives. It was pretty obvious they must have met online, but for some strange reason, she doesn't want to say it. She says they met through friends of friends.
oaks Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 People have been meeting each other on the Internet for decades (yes, before the World Wide Web) so it's really nothing unusual any more. If you need to tell a lie about it then how about saying where you first met in person, eg wherever you had your first date?
KathyM Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 There is no stigma for meeting online anymore, since there are so many dating websites and other ways to meet online. No reason to lie, really. But if you really don't want them to know the truth, just don't offer up that information. If they ask how you met, you could say "that's a long story. Maybe I'll tell you about it sometime." Or you could make up some really outrageous story, and then just say, "that's not really what happened, but it sounded a lot more interesting." That's my suggestion.
irc333 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 True, but regardless, I stil no of a lot of people that won't touch online dating with a 10-foot pole. There is no stigma for meeting online anymore, since there are so many dating websites and other ways to meet online. No reason to lie, really. But if you really don't want them to know the truth, just don't offer up that information. If they ask how you met, you could say "that's a long story. Maybe I'll tell you about it sometime." Or you could make up some really outrageous story, and then just say, "that's not really what happened, but it sounded a lot more interesting." That's my suggestion.
oaks Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Try this: "I think we met at a party but I was so drunk that really all I remember is that he was there when I woke up."
EricaH329 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 There is no stigma for meeting online anymore, since there are so many dating websites and other ways to meet online. I do agree with this when it comes to people who use the internet often. My mother and father wouldn't be able to understand if I met someone online, and they would be the most interested in knowing how I met someone. With that said, OP, it is your life. You are able to get involved with whoever you'd like, however you'd like, as long as you are happy and it isn't abusive. You can always say you met through a mutual friend. If someone asks who, tell them it's someone they don't know. No one needs to know anything more than that.
KathyM Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 True, but regardless, I stil no of a lot of people that won't touch online dating with a 10-foot pole. I know a lot of people who met a wonderful person on a dating website. Some married the person. Some are in a serious relationship with the person. I don't think there's a stigma anymore, really. These were quality people that could have easily met someone through other means. It's just one contemporary way to find other like-minded people. You just have to be careful to prescreen the people you meet online.
Author conehead Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Thank you for everyone's feedback. We thought about using the we met through a mutual friend deal. My bf is nervous as he knows that his parents get nosy and will ask him which friend, how he was setup, how he knows the friend, how I know the friend, etc. He is not good at lying. I've been thru this once with an ex without any issues at all, but my new bf is not quite as smooth. He fears he will blow the story. Not sure if there is a way around this.
KathyM Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Try this: "I think we met at a party but I was so drunk that really all I remember is that he was there when I woke up." lol. Funny.
KathyM Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Thank you for everyone's feedback. We thought about using the we met through a mutual friend deal. My bf is nervous as he knows that his parents get nosy and will ask him which friend, how he was setup, how he knows the friend, how I know the friend, etc. He is not good at lying. I've been thru this once with an ex without any issues at all, but my new bf is not quite as smooth. He fears he will blow the story. Not sure if there is a way around this. Telling the truth would be the best. If his parents have trouble with the online meeting, that's their problem. You don't need to lie to satisfy the parents.
Author conehead Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Telling the truth would be the best. If his parents have trouble with the online meeting, that's their problem. You don't need to lie to satisfy the parents. It's not just parents, but relatives. I have like 30 aunts, uncles, etc and my parents will be too scared to intro the bf to them. Family integration is crucial part of a relationship esp for us because we are Asian. I just see my parents disapproving to the point of it ruining our RS and us breaking up, which I don't want. If my parent's don't approve, my BF will not like it either as it's also tradition for him to get parent permission if we are ever to be engaged.
oaks Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Then you'll have to come up with a better story. Where did you have your first date?
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