k100danny Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Here is the general story. got back in touch with someone i was friends with as a teenager, we started texting ect as friends and went out for dinner a couple of times to catch up ect. I kind of knew she had some feelings for me by things she said and after around 4 months chatting and going out a few times we both admitted we liked each other. we started to flirt a lot and speak everyday and basically told each other how we felt, we started to date around a month ago seeing each other around twice a week sometimes 3 times. we have had a few teething problems at the start and have had two arguments both resolved. she was very into me and admitted it was going quite fast but she would still flirt a lot via text. I felt the relationship had changed maybe die to the argument but she assured me she was fine, we have been very honest with each other and we promised at the beggining we would be honest as we were very good friends and didnt want either of us to get hurt. so anyway the last few days she doesnt seem as interested, we havent seen each other for a week but obviously she is working and has a life also. She doesnt seem as flirty and as bothered about seeing me as she did last week, I asked her if there was anything wrong and i would understand if she wanted to go back to being just friends. she said everything is fine and she cares about me a lot, she said she isnt going off me but it was starting to move too fast and she thinks seeing each other once a week is fine at this point. I cant help but feel that spark isnt there from her and i would be hurt if she was going off me but id rather know and maybe be able to salvage a friendship in the future. do you think this is the case or could she just be scared off it going too fast?
Author k100danny Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 any help would be much appreciated. I really cont know how to feel about this.
Ginger Beer Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 How old are you both? Do you know much about her past relationships? Maybe she's been hurt in the past and is telling the truth when she says she doesn't want to go too fast? I'm not really an expert but I can't really ascertain much from your post. Especially if like you say you both agreed early on to be honest with each other.
Author k100danny Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Im 28 and she is 29. she got out of a relation ship in the middle of last year which was around 4 years long and she said it was a disaster at the end, she did say she doesnt want to rush into a relationship for it to break down as she isnt getting any younger, she did say this before we actually got together. As for the post above about her not being into me, i think thats kind of way off. i know have been told through friends that she has been into me for a long time and they havent seen her this happy. she could have started to have doubts though this is what i am worried about. we seriously spoke everyday for the last maybe 5 months and only the last day or two it has seemed strange, she says its in my head and she still feels the same. us having being close friends and promising to tell each other the truth makes me think she wouldnt lie to me but i cant help but feel something is wrong. we had been seeing a lot of each other though and it was going fast it just seems to have gone to stop in 48 hours almost.
Author k100danny Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 And not to sound defensive to the above guy again but we have been sleeping with each other for a while, i know a lot about her sexual history and she hasnt been with lots of people, maybe i am being defensive, **** i hope she isnt haha.
Ginger Beer Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Bro, it is clear as day she is sleeping with another guy. You move too slow, you must be a "nice guy" she got her self a "bad boy". I say go NC, don't talk to her, don't answer her calls and text. When i woman tells you "let's take it slow, i need time, let's not rush, moving too fast"..etc. She is NOT IN TO YOU and you don't get her all moist in the other region.... Find someone who is crazy about you bro, it will be easy as pie as it were... ..................
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