irma Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Hello I have posted this thread on the 'dating'forum as well a I am really keen to see your opinions on this. I am wondering if my ex may be, in a very roundabout way, be wanting me back! I know this post may make me come accross as really mean ... I don't mean it as cruel, just curious... My ex broke up with me in January. It was really hard for me at first after being together for 3 and a half years. I found out he started seeing a new girl two months after we broke up. Ex and I have kept LC since the split and I met him for lunch yesterday to give him some stuff he had left at mine. Whilst we were at lunch he got a call from his new girlfriend who was in the area and wanting to meet up. At once I said I would get going but he insisted I stay and meet her. I was so nervous as I still hold a little flame for him! Anyway to be brutally honest I was shocked when she arrived. I had this picture of a stunning woman in my head and was really nervous. However she was, in my opinion and I'm sure in the opinion of many, not attractive in the slightest. She was really, really thin, practically unhealthy looking, really pale with thin hair that was greasy and unwashed. She didn't have a scrap of make up and had huge bags under her eyes. If I had seen her in the street I would have assumed she was a drug addict. She wore the most unflattering clothes, really baggy clothes that just hung off her and never looked me in the eye. She seemed really odd. She kissed him as soon as she saw him and my ex looked very uncomfortable with this. She totally ignored me and I would have felt awkward if it wasn't for the fact that I was ever so amused by the weirdness of the situation. She wasn't ugly as such just not attractive, at least she had a good set of teeth. I don't understand what he sees in her. Considering they weren't friends before or anything (one night stand) I just don't get it. It has however made me feel a hell of a lot better about myself!! Since we broke up I have made such an effort to improve myself as I'm out there dating. Why would he be so keen to meet her? He must know how people would react. He's good looking and I would have expected him to move on to someone better looking than myself. I know looks are not everything, it's what inside that counts blah blah blah but I just couldn't see the attraction!!! Very confused. Anyone able to shed some light? Please?
wilsonx Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Welcome to the wonderful world of life... it happens, even I laugh every now and then when I think of my ex's new partner. It's never an upgrade. You just think to yourself, if thats what they want, I guess I dodged a bullet in the grand scheme of things
shayla Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 The woman my ex left me for is 10 years older than me and very unattractive. she had lost her husband a month before she went after him, not caring that he had someone. What did she have that I didn't? She had a house. Adult children that were out on their own. Desperation to have a man at any cost. And a fat insurance settlement. She was his retirement plan. But after all is said and done, he left me and married her. Doesn't matter how she looks, that's what he chose.
Author irma Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Thanks I have been slated on the dating forum. I guess people have completey different ideas of what is attractive and what is not. Horses for courses as they say!
wilsonx Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 The thing is you should have more self worth then to still be hanging around your ex, go out there and make new friends. Prove to yourself that you do not need your ex in your life.
Author irma Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 The thing is you should have more self worth then to still be hanging around your ex, go out there and make new friends. Prove to yourself that you do not need your ex in your life. I don't really hang out with him. We've known each other for over ten years so we had a longer history as friends before we started seeing each other.
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