Untouchable_Fire Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 I always see these threads about nice guys and jerks, or good guys and bad boys, but I've never really seen a thread where we talk about the women we chase after. It's like the assumption is that all girls are "good girls". It got me thinking about when I was in Junior High and High School and the girls I liked. The first girl I really had a serious crush on had chin length pink and green hair, wore grungy clothes, and got suspended for punching a boy that made fun of her. I struggled to even talk to her. She seemed to have that teen rebellion thing down pat, while I was still trying to understand it. Another girl I had a strong thing for was named Angela. I sat next to her in a typing class. She was one of those latina gangster girls... and definitely dressed the part. In class she once told our teacher to F off and stormed out of class because of some dispute over the dress code. I asked her out that year 4 times and she said no each time. The next year I made friends with her brother in weights class. We used to joke about it all the time. She only dated really dangerous guys. I played most sports and my friends would typically be labelled "jocks", though the guys I spent time with were not the most popular ones. I'm not sure why or how... but I definitely had a thing for girls with attitude. I always wound up dating the more normal girls... I think because the "bad girls" somewhat intimidated me. Anyone else have a thing for women like this? Any good stories? Ever really date a bad girl?
sm1tten Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 My brother, actually. His last serious girlfriend was a drug addicted stripper who was pregnant with another man's child and was cheating on my brother the entirety of their relationship. Cue the screaming violent fights. ****, that's not even a "bad girl" story, the more I think about it this woman was some sort of sociopath. Neeeevermind.
gozone77 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Perplexing, isn't it? I'm very much your stereotypical nice guy but have always had a thing for "bad" girls (where "bad" does not mean "loser"). Perhaps it's a lot like the whole situation between Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston vs Angelina Jolie. Excitement, adventure, risk, and intrigue seem to be more desireable than stability, genuine care, and safety. Women seem to be attracted to "bad" guys, too, so it's definitely not a gender-specific thing. I don't know how to approach this issue, but I do know that it can take some pretty serious introspection to figure out what's best for us (as opposed to what's most desireable).
tigressA Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Yeah, most guys I came across in high school and college were into the girls who were a walking s*itstorm of drama. The girls who could probably drink them under the table, the girls who were ready to cuss anyone out for whatever reason--the Jerry Springer/Girls Gone Wild type. They tolerated a constant stream of what could be labeled as abuse from these girls. From what I've seen, guys are just as prone to falling for bad girls as girls are prone to falling for bad boys.
Author Untouchable_Fire Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Perplexing, isn't it? I'm very much your stereotypical nice guy but have always had a thing for "bad" girls (where "bad" does not mean "loser"). Perhaps it's a lot like the whole situation between Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston vs Angelina Jolie Excitement, adventure, risk, and intrigue seem to be more desireable than stability, genuine care, and safety. Women seem to be attracted to "bad" guys, too, so it's definitely not a gender-specific thing. I don't know how to approach this issue, but I do know that it can take some pretty serious introspection to figure out what's best for us (as opposed to what's most desireable). I think that it was a trait that I myself didn't have, so I found it really attractive. I went to a private school for 9 years until I went to a public high school. My lifes focus was school and athletics. I was very preppy. The wrong side of the tracks type girl just always seemed exotic and interesting. It's funny that the girls who fit the "good girl" label are just as apt if not more to cheat, fight with you, and create abusive situations... ect. I've known more church going housewives who do Terrible crap to their families than I have punk rocker chicks who do similar. Maybe I'm just naive about this... but it seems women are simply not predictable that way.
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