Kathyy28 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 My best friend is my ex's best friend's wife. These past few weeks my ex has been going around trying to find out through them if I've been seeing or talking to anyone cause apparently his brother saw me in downtown with another guy. The night that he saw me I was with a group of people that I've known since 1st grade so since they kept on checking us in on fb wherever we went he KNEW that I was with them instead of this date his brother told him about. Last week my ex asked his friend again if he knew if I was talking or dating anyone and his friend lied to him and said yes! He did it cause him and his wife was looking out for me since they knew the whole situation and they felt that the way he treated me and handled the break up was wrong. I told him that if he could clear things up to him cause I'm done playing games and I don't get anything out of getting my ex jealous. I just don't want to be like him by saying and doing things on purpose just to hurt it. It is not right, and it is an immature thing for me to do. On Monday night I got an acceptance letter from a school in Florida and now I will be moving down there by the end of next month which is 2000 miles from where I live now. So this morning I get I call from my best friend where she is warning me and begging me that if my ex decides to hit me up NOT to respond to him or go back. I was confused about why she said that and finally I got it out of her. Apparently yesterday her husband went biking with my ex and my ex brother and he tells him the truth that I am not talking to someone specifically and also the news that I will be moving away by the end of next month. My ex says " so you're telling me this cause that means if I need to do something, I need to do it now?" his best friend ask " what do you mean? do you want to get back with her?" and his response was " **** no! I will never get back into a relationship with her, I just want to **** her." UGH this disgust me to the MAX! I've known this guy for 12 years, were best friends for 10 and he lives one street away from me. I was such a good, loyal friend and gf to him and he broke up with me at a moment of anger. I've NEVER ended up in bad terms with an ex but it seem like he is just trying to become my enemy. This makes my moving on process much faster! I just don't know and understand WHY he is acting like this! So ignorant and disrespectful. I needed to vent here cause I wanted to explode on him but I am NOT going to give him the pleasure. I am worth SO much more than that.
Mack05 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Kathy great vent and great last line. "I am worth SO much more than that." It hurts when someone we love/loved, insults and hurts us like this. I could say a lot about this guy, but honestly it doesn't matter. He doesn't matter. The only person to determine their self worth is you. In the future you are going to prove what you said above "I am worth SO much more than that". You will end up with a man that respects you, who admires you, who adores you, who believes in you, who understands you, who supports you, who will only EVER make love to you, who trusts you...Who most importantly loves you, all of you. This guy is a &%&&&** lowlife, what happens to him? Who cares....
wilsonx Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 congrats on the school but it sucks kathyy. But its the same both ways. Women do the same thing. They pretend like they want to get back with you, use you and then leave you on the curb in the same position they did in the past. Read the second chance forums, it happens all the time. It happened to me. I was my own rebound for 3 months until I finally kicked her out. This is why you can not stay friends with an ex and people need to realize this. A low character dumper ex will use and abuse their dumpees as long as the dumpees allow it to continue.
Author Kathyy28 Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Kathy great vent and great last line. "I am worth SO much more than that." It hurts when someone we love/loved, insults and hurts us like this. I could say a lot about this guy, but honestly it doesn't matter. He doesn't matter. The only person to determine their self worth is you. In the future you are going to prove what you said above "I am worth SO much more than that". You will end up with a man that respects you, who admires you, who adores you, who believes in you, who understands you, who supports you, who will only EVER make love to you, who trusts you...Who most importantly loves you, all of you. This guy is a &%&&&** lowlife, what happens to him? Who cares.... Thank you so much Mack. As a matter a fact last month I had bought the book Getting Past Your Break Up that was recommended by you in a few of your posts. It has helped me out SO much. I had gone 6 weeks of NC, then it was broken because he texted me to drop off something which he never did. I honestly don't know why he texted me in the first place. He's the one who looks pathetic in my eyes. I had written a post on it a few weeks ago, but ever since that interaction I have kept NC again and don't plan to break it anytime soon.
Author Kathyy28 Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 congrats on the school but it sucks kathyy. But its the same both ways. Women do the same thing. They pretend like they want to get back with you, use you and then leave you on the curb in the same position they did in the past. Read the second chance forums, it happens all the time. It happened to me. I was my own rebound for 3 months until I finally kicked her out. This is why you can not stay friends with an ex and people need to realize this. A low character dumper ex will use and abuse their dumpees as long as the dumpees allow it to continue. Thank you so much Wilson! I agree with you, women also tend to do the same thing and it's not correct. I'm sorry if you took my post as if I were directing it to all men but honestly I wasn't. I was just talking about my ex actions. I have not done nor have I tried having a friendship with my ex after he broke up with me. I figured he was the one who dumped me so that means he didn't wanted me in his life. Also I couldn't be friends with him knowing that my friendship wouldn't be genuine cause of my feelings towards him. Thank you so much for your words and your past experience. I wouldn't want to me the rug for him to step on. Hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me.
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