TaintedHeart Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 9 days NC. Yes I feel pretty proud, a little more in control. I know NC is for our benifit and to heal ect but do you ever feel silly for counting how many days you haven't contacted them for? I mean, I'm sure my ex isn't counting how many days it's been, or even thought 'Why hasn't she text/called?' I don't actually know what I'm trying to explain, my brain has gone to mush..
RuinedLife Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 9 days NC. Yes I feel pretty proud, a little more in control. I know NC is for our benifit and to heal ect but do you ever feel silly for counting how many days you haven't contacted them for? I mean, I'm sure my ex isn't counting how many days it's been, or even thought 'Why hasn't she text/called?' I don't actually know what I'm trying to explain, my brain has gone to mush.. Its good that you are doing a little better. Hope that pattern continues for you. And if counting the days makes you feel better, like you've achieved something (because it is hard keeping NC) then who cares what anyone else thinks or what your ex may or may not be doing. But try to keep NC best you can. I know its hard, believe me as I've broken it many times myself thinking there might be something I can say to my ex to save the relationship but I just end up more heart broken every time. As I contact, am ignored and feel rejected again and then after awhile contact is returned so my false hopes are boosted again and then I'm ignored and heart broken all over again. Its a horrible pattern. And it really undermines your self esteem. Not that I had much to begin with, but I feel worse than ever for breaking NC now and having all these false hopes that seem to have fallen flat yet again.
radiodarcy Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 do you ever feel silly for counting how many days you haven't contacted them for? I mean, I'm sure my ex isn't counting how many days it's been, or even thought 'Why hasn't she text/called?' I don't actually know what I'm trying to explain, my brain has gone to mush.. not at all. counting the days actually helps me stick to NC and it gives me pride to see how far i've come. no my ex probably isn't keeping track either. but no matter -- this is abt me and my healing - - not him.
English-Rose Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 I'm counting too! It's only natural and I, like you, feel proud at the conclusion of every day that I have sucessfully avoided contact with my ex! I guess in time the counting will stop and become irrelevant. At the moment it's just lots of milestones, small but significant, along the road to recovery and a mind free from thoughts of a man who has already moved on and is in a new relationship. One day saying that won't hurt me, roll on that day
CaliBabe Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 9 days NC. Yes I feel pretty proud, a little more in control. I know NC is for our benifit and to heal ect but do you ever feel silly for counting how many days you haven't contacted them for? I mean, I'm sure my ex isn't counting how many days it's been, or even thought 'Why hasn't she text/called?' I don't actually know what I'm trying to explain, my brain has gone to mush.. You go girl! You said "I wonder why she hasnt text/called?" You are showing him you are not a doormat! You are standing up for yourself, you should be proud.
geegirl Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 I count the days and it motivates me. It makes me feel proud that I'm really doing it! Especially when I've broken my past record...makes me perservere even more. But as you keep getting more and more detached, at some point you will lose track of counting! I promise! Keep going!
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