ConfusedGuy28 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 OK so I broke things off with the Muslim girl I was seeing last night. I'm sure some of you know the back story. So here's what happened yesterday (we're apart distance wise for the next 2 weeks, fyi): We're texting (I had to text her first, impt for later) - and she says "OK, I'll call you at 4" - I said okay and the convo died down 4pm rolls around - nothing. I text her 3 times over the next 5 hours (once was about this mutual friend of ours that was talking my ear off....one was to say i guess your busy and i'm taking a nap....the last was "are you okay?") - no response. I called around 9pm - it rang 5 times - no answer. 10:45pm rolls around - and she decides to call. Tells me her entire day. So I tell her "Um, hey, I don't know about you, but if I say I'm going to call someone at a specific time, I do." She goes on to tell me that that's how she always is - she was like that with her ex, her best friends give her a hard time about it, she's like that with her mom, etc. I said "well, ok, don't be that way with me, it's a little rude" I then ask her what's up with her ex (we got together, she tells me they haven't been together in 2 years (true) and she's single (true). She went home one weekend recently and told her parents about me - they said no - and out of nowhere she texts her ex "hey baby i love you lets work it out" - ??????). When I ask her that - she gets kind of quiet..."ummm." So I ask her wtf is up. She says they've been talking, texting - and he said "lets talk about it when you get back in person." So, she wasn't going to tell me this because she didn't know where it might go - and wanted to string me along. So - I ended it right then and there. I told her we've been good friends for 4 years now, she knows me, and she has a pretty good idea of the kind of boyfriend I would be. She starts apologizing, didn't mean for this to happen, etc. I tell her to figure out what she wants, and stop pussy footing around and do whatever she can to get her ex back - because maybe then - she'll realize the guy who has hit her, TWICE, isn't worth it. That all of their problems will just resurface and she's just reliving the good days. Then I tell her how she never truly gave us a chance, and at the first sign of trouble - she runs back to her ex? I left the door ever so open by a smudge and said "I'm not waiting for you. For all you know, I'll have slept with 5 women by the time you come back (she had asked that I can date, just not sleep with anyone, so I thought I'd throw that in - I was a little pissed ok?). But don't expect me to say yes when he inevitably says no or it doesn't work out. You'd have to put up one hell of a fight to even possibly have me consider talking to you again. Well, I'm tired, I've had a long ass day as it is, good luck with that, take care and talk to you later" 4 years of a great friendship down the drain because she'd rather go back to a guy who gets drunk and lies about it (against her religion and her own beliefs) and who has HIT her twice now. What a great combo huh? Drinking and domestic violence - i don't see that ending badly....christ
wilsonx Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 You did the right thing for you and thats all that matters. You know I have matured since I first started posting here, I was pissed off at my ex for leaving me for some other guy that she works with. They are not compatible at all and she just wants to do what she wants to do. I was angry and resentful towards her. Some part of me still loves her. But in the end she made a decision and you can not tell her if its the right or wrong decision because its her decision and she has to own up to it.
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