DoubleRainbow Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 (edited) This guy and I are co-workers(both single, 40), same department. He started giving me signals 5-6 months back, the affection in his eyes cannot be misinterpretted, he did everything possible( non-verbal, and (indirect verbal) to make me understand that he was interested in me. My guards were up initially(due to personal losses,I did not date/consider someone for past 9 years) but then I started liking him, too. Gradually, I developed feelings for him,got emotionally attached to him.He did see and acknowldge this change. We had not really dated, yet. Then, the unexpected happened. He shut down completely on me, stopped talking to me, started ignoring me. I did try to ask but did not get a concrete answer. (I might be wrong, but twice I felt that while talking to his friends(when i happened to pass from there)they made fun of me.) I so wanted him back...things back to normal, but apparently he did not know what he wanted.I was obviously very hurt.Soon after this, he went out for a 2-month out-of-state assignment. i did get a lot of help from here...the Loveshack Relationship Experts and I am so thankful for that. NOW THE MAIN REASON FOR THIS POST: He called me today, that he wishes to speak to me, face to face( when he comes back on Friday ,I did not really insist on knowing the reason, as I would also not prefer on the phone/email)...there was a lot of desperation, sincererity and urgency in his tone. So I am assuming that he might talk about us or may be feel sorry for what happened in the past. NOW, i am so confused how to react if thsi happens. I had used this period to heal from this shock...i kept reading posts here at ENA and saw how much pain people go thru in such relationships where one of the partner is not sure about himself. Then I thank my stars that at least it was not a relationship yet, otherwise even more emotions invested. I am going over(with myself ) the pros and cons CONS: he is unpredictable, not sure about himself, AT WORK RELATIONSHIP IS USUALLY A DISASTER,all the stress definitely effected my work before(my company has no policy of dating coworkers, though) i am not even completely healed, and what if after a few days/months, he again acts the way he acted before. PROS: He is the one I opened my heart to, after nearly a decade, I REALLY like him..and I know that I HAVE almost turned back to being stone-hearted. Guys, please help me..what should I do...I am quite sure that he will talk about us being in relationship or something like that... Edited July 13, 2011 by DoubleRainbow
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