Billymoks Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 (edited) Hey guys, I wanna ask for opinions about my situation... (I'm not very good at expressing everything clearly and I'm sure there might be some confusion so please just ask ) There is this girl that I was together with in a very short relationship about 2 years ago, but she cheated on her boyfriend at the time for me (saying she doesn't like her boyfriend anymore), But when the time comes to breaking up with the other guy, she got really upset about the whole situation and decided to break up with both of us. She deleted my Facebook and all. 2 years later, about a month or two ago we saw each other again, was a total co-incidence but it was surprising for the both of us. We started meeting up again, I still really like her but I think she's on the fence about it. After the first day we meet up I learned that she had been in a new relationship since we last met, but it went very bad and she was cheated on and got dumped, YET she's still thinking about that guy and secretly looking at photos of him on Facebook (who now has a girlfriend. She told me I'm more good-looking than he is. And she said she's quite fed up with relationships in general at the moment. The main problem is, I lost my cool and told her about my feelings for her way too early, about the second time we met, and she said she doesn't have the feeling for me and doesn't know why she had 2 years ago. She's a very beautiful and (a little bit) shy girl and I love our time together, but I sort of thrown a lot out the window and screwed up everything because I told her too early and scared her off. What should I do?? Edited July 13, 2011 by Billymoks
prosense Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Well, first off even if she likes you, it would be a rebound. and you don't want to be the rebound guy or do you? secondly, you put your hear out and she is not on the same page. so just move on. stick with no contact. erase her number, facebook and all that. I am sure that you are said and disappointed. but you are not heartbroken as much as those who just got out a relationship. so, be a man and move one. focus on your work or family or friends. I am saying this coz I am going thru something similar. good luck!
smudge21 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Just because someones not been in a relationship doesn't mean their feelings can't be just as strong for someone. Love isn't based on how long you've been with someone. It can happen instantly or take ages. Anyway, that said I'd agree with Prosense that the best thing to do would be to back away now. She clearly has feelings for the guy who dumped her, just like you have feelings for this girl that dumped you - that's how being dumped plays out. So at least you're in a good place now to realise that how you feel about her is how she feels about him. That alone should give you a good insight into how this may play out if you decide to keep seeing her. She's been honest with you about her feelings for you, so knowing that can you still see her? If all that may be on the table is a friendship, can you accept that? I know I couldn't with my ex as I still loved her. It's your decision but sadly I don't see this becoming what you want it to become.
rafallus Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 (edited) The main problem is, I lost my cool and told her about my feelings for her way too early, about the second time we met, and she said she doesn't have the feeling for me and doesn't know why she had 2 years ago.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LMc263klrMQ That's about the last thing a girl who cares would say. Edited July 13, 2011 by rafallus
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