SmileFace Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 My sister is approaching the big 3.0! Which isn't a big deal but to her it is very demotivating. She is talking about artificial insemination if she doesn't get in a relationship soon. About 2 nights ago she called me up and b!tched about being single for about 2 hours. I told her try online dating but she is skeptical. She tried it last year and went on one first date. She didn't find she was getting enough messages and not enough replies to the ones she sent out. Anyway, would it be appropriate to set up a dating profile for her but more like as a set up? So I would browse guys and then send them to her if they are interested. Kind of like a blind date type thing. I just want to help. Is it a bad idea?
Art_Critic Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Has she priced AI? going on a date would be thousands possibly 10's of thousands of dollars cheaper depending on how many time AI needs to be done Not sure if it is a good idea or not.. would she be up for it your way ? I knew someone that did that for her Dad.. She would even email some of the girls then set up a date and he would go on them.
Author SmileFace Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Has she priced AI? going on a date would be thousands possibly 10's of thousands of dollars cheaper depending on how many time AI needs to be done Not sure if it is a good idea or not.. would she be up for it your way ? I knew someone that did that for her Dad.. She would even email some of the girls then set up a date and he would go on them. Yes she has and I am pretty sure she has a baby savings account already I don't know. If I do I will make it a group effort and recruit my cousin to help with finding the right guy, hopefully.
musemaj11 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Getting knocked up by some random attractive guy is way cheaper.
Art_Critic Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Getting knocked up by some random attractive guy is way cheaper. Sounds like you're offering your services
musemaj11 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Sounds like you're offering your services Nah, Im not into playing with fire. I dont wanna end up with having to pay for child support down the line somehow. Not worth it.
oldguy Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 My sister is approaching the big 3.0! Which isn't a big deal but to her it is very demotivating. She is talking about artificial insemination if she doesn't get in a relationship soon. About 2 nights ago she called me up and b!tched about being single for about 2 hours. I told her try online dating but she is skeptical. She tried it last year and went on one first date. She didn't find she was getting enough messages and not enough replies to the ones she sent out. Anyway, would it be appropriate to set up a dating profile for her but more like as a set up? So I would browse guys and then send them to her if they are interested. Kind of like a blind date type thing. I just want to help. Is it a bad idea? Ask her, see what she thinks. I would think she would want to beat you into the dirt if you did it:laugh:
thatone Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 terrible idea, but i actually saw a dating profile in my city with a woman saying exactly what your sister said. her entire profile was a rant about the terrible men she'd found in her 20s with a threat that if no one on this website 'measured up', she'd just go to the clinic in a few months and pay for the AI. the more i read the more every word looked like p-s-y-c-h-o.
musemaj11 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 A lot of women seem to feel that men owe it to them to marry them, give them children, and provide for them for the rest of their lives.
Andy_K Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 If she's not getting many replies or messages on online dating, she needs to hit the gym. As morally upsetting as it may be, the simple truth is that any woman's potential dating pool is 90% determined by her looks. Doesn't matter how nice your personality is if you either don't get noticed in the first place, or the guys you want don't fancy you. If she's having trouble finding much in the pool, she needs to either make it bigger by improving her looks, or stop whining. The more effort she puts in the less luck she needs.
oaks Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 My sister is approaching the big 3.0! Which isn't a big deal but to her it is very demotivating. She is talking about artificial insemination if she doesn't get in a relationship soon. Does she actually want a relationship (you know... companionship, affection, love) or just someone to impregnate her? Anyway, there are sites for what you're thinking of doing like mysinglefriend.com (which is UK-centric, but I'm sure there are others around the world) where you can create a profile for your sister.
thatone Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 A lot of women seem to feel that men owe it to them to marry them, give them children, and provide for them for the rest of their lives. i actually have no problem with that role but the problem is a lot of women are not worthy of getting it.
Author SmileFace Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Getting knocked up by some random attractive guy is way cheaper. The AI isn't something she mentioned as a right now plan but if she isn't settled with a guy by the time she turns 35, it is an idea. She doesn't just want to get pregnant by some random guy, obviously that is a lot easier. She wants a equal relationship not a father to her kids If she's not getting many replies or messages on online dating, she needs to hit the gym. As morally upsetting as it may be, the simple truth is that any woman's potential dating pool is 90% determined by her looks. Doesn't matter how nice your personality is if you either don't get noticed in the first place, or the guys you want don't fancy you. If she's having trouble finding much in the pool, she needs to either make it bigger by improving her looks, or stop whining. The more effort she puts in the less luck she needs. Agreed
Author SmileFace Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Does she actually want a relationship (you know... companionship, affection, love) or just someone to impregnate her? Anyway, there are sites for what you're thinking of doing like mysinglefriend.com (which is UK-centric, but I'm sure there are others around the world) where you can create a profile for your sister. Yeah she actually wants a relationship. She isn't bitter towards men, just has a hard time finding one.
Author SmileFace Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 terrible idea, but i actually saw a dating profile in my city with a woman saying exactly what your sister said. her entire profile was a rant about the terrible men she'd found in her 20s with a threat that if no one on this website 'measured up', she'd just go to the clinic in a few months and pay for the AI. the more i read the more every word looked like p-s-y-c-h-o. When she had her dating profile it was nothing like this.
Author SmileFace Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Ask her, see what she thinks. I would think she would want to beat you into the dirt if you did it:laugh: I think if I have to listen to her b!tch, I have enough reason to try and help. She just seems so confused. She is sick of being alone. Thinks she wants to stop dating but then complains about it. She gets mad when family members try and hook her up with their guy friends but still complains to them. Then she talks about how I am always finding dates. She seems to not understand that when I am dating, I don't just sit on my ass and wait for guys.
oldguy Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 I think if I have to listen to her b!tch, I have enough reason to try and help. She just seems so confused. She is sick of being alone. Thinks she wants to stop dating but then complains about it. She gets mad when family members try and hook her up with their guy friends but still complains to them. Then she talks about how I am always finding dates. She seems to not understand that when I am dating, I don't just sit on my ass and wait for guys. So how would trying to find a guy for your sister be perceived by her. I really don't see how that would end well. Why do you think she's having trouble?
Author SmileFace Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 So how would trying to find a guy for your sister be perceived by her. I really don't see how that would end well. Why do you think she's having trouble? The fact that I don't even want to mention the idea to her. That can tell you how I think it will be perceived. I know why she is having trouble but who doesn't have trouble? Since I believe the world is full of people for everyone. I just wish someone could guide her. She keeps dating younger guys, to me it seems like she likes fixing people. It is weird she is about 8 years older than me and dates guys in my age range and I date guys in hers. The thing is that is fitting, since we are two different people. I grew up way faster than her and live on my own. She took the school route and still lives at home. I don't know if I can be any help to her. She wants to date the guys I date, so I thought I could help, shrugs. I think I will let her fight her own battle.
Author SmileFace Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Hi smile face Girl you are crazy, why would you set your sister up on a date from online. . I should just sprinkle some pheromones on her, right?
oaks Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Yeah she actually wants a relationship. She isn't bitter towards men, just has a hard time finding one. Good to hear. Well, I'm sure we can find someone on here who will be happy to go on a date with her. Where in the world is she?
ascendotum Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 If she's not getting many replies or messages on online dating, she needs to hit the gym. As morally upsetting as it may be, the simple truth is that any woman's potential dating pool is 90% determined by her looks. Doesn't matter how nice your personality is if you either don't get noticed in the first place, or the guys you want don't fancy you. If she's having trouble finding much in the pool, she needs to either make it bigger by improving her looks, or stop whining. The more effort she puts in the less luck she needs. This is not so far from the advice the dejected single guys get here. If what you doing aint working then change! She writes off online guys having only had 1 date! How long was she on the site for, all of last year? As for your idea of setting up a dating profile for her, I dont think its such a bad idea actually as long as you didn't oversell just because it was your sister, but then you could also just review+overhaul her existing profile as well. SF what do you think of the guys she has been set up with by other family members Is she fussy? As her sister you should be able to set her straight on what she's doing wrong or not doing.
thatone Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 When she had her dating profile it was nothing like this. wasn't trying to suggest that it was, it just reminded me of by far the craziest rant in a dating profile that i had ever seen.
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