Felicia Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 My fiance and I have had a long distance for a year now. He came to see me for the first time in a year and spent some time down here by me. He proposed. However I have a huge problem. I asked him to stay here with me until I finished out college which would be a year and a half. Mom said he was welcome to the home, vehicle and food. He decided to go back down anyways, he said he will get a job and find us a house. I have been crying since he left. I feel like if he stayed here we would both be moving back to his home from scratch, no job. He doesnt agree. He feels like a burden on us. I think he is being selfish, like he doesnt understand I am uprooting from my home that I lived in for 9 years.!!!!! All my friends are here, my job, my home, my cars. Everything for him. I am happy to be doing that but it feels like he wouldnt do the same for me. Am I wrong for feeling this way.? Give me your opinion on the subject.!
madjac74 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 I really dont want to say you are being selfish because you obviously care about him and would do anything to make it so you guys can be together. But you said a lot of things you would lose by moving, however did you consider what he would be moving away from? I would assume he has friends/family where he is? And most men have some pride and wouldnt want their fiance's mom taking care of them.
creighton0123 Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Perhaps, in this situation, it is better for the two of you to discuss where you both want to end up. In a long distance relationship, the option of one moving to the other or vice versa isn't the only option. Many people forget that a third option exists: Moving to a place that is new for the both of you and building a life there. Just food for thought.
Recommended Posts