shanemike88 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 (edited) After dating a girl for a few months I've realized that she kinda pull a wall up. Almost like she's let me in to where she's comfortable and now its like a waiting game to see what happens. Even though I don't show it it's a bit frustrating for me because I am pretty direct when she is very indirect. Anyway last night we hung out and I said to myself I'm not going to kiss her because I've been feeling like she's pushing me away. Well as soon as I saw her I said to myself why the hell wouldn't I kiss this girl? After not making a move for about a few hours of seeing each other I decided to grow a pair and make a move and it worked. Afterwards she kinda gave me this smile and I asked her if everything was ok and she said yes. She wouldn't tell me exactly what the smile was about. When I left last night she texted me and said she was sorry for having the wall up the last few weeks and that she hopes I understand. I replied with I do and she wrote back I really don't think you do and she said she's really close to opening up to me but just doesn't know if she's ready. What I'm I supposed to do here? I feel like when everything is fine she somehow just over analysis's our situation. Edited July 12, 2011 by shanemike88
prosense Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 I'd plaud you for manning up. good for you. I don't think that she is playing hard to get. However, I am not sure why she said she is not quite ready. Maybe she just got out of a relationship? Is there anyway you can find out about it? Maybe next time you two sit and have a cup of coffee you can talk about your previous relationship very lightly. Anyhow, just give her room and space that she is asking for. If she is ready, I am sure she will give you a hint or sign. Until then, just be patient. If you can't wait, then just say to her that you don't want to wait no more and just move on.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Hey, just keep putting the moves on her without a word. She'll spill her guts to you soon enough.
rafallus Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 IMO "wall" was just her talk for waiting for you to just man up.
Author shanemike88 Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 I'd plaud you for manning up. good for you. I don't think that she is playing hard to get. However, I am not sure why she said she is not quite ready. Maybe she just got out of a relationship? Is there anyway you can find out about it? Maybe next time you two sit and have a cup of coffee you can talk about your previous relationship very lightly. Anyhow, just give her room and space that she is asking for. If she is ready, I am sure she will give you a hint or sign. Until then, just be patient. If you can't wait, then just say to her that you don't want to wait no more and just move on.[/quote I know she's been single for a year and we have briefly talked about past relationships but thats been about it. You mentioned patience and over the past few weeks that is something I've been accustomed to.
Author shanemike88 Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 I think she is dating other people..... Idk I feel like if she was she would just be upfront with me about it. She's been honest with me so far about everything I don't know why she would hide that. If she is it would suck because at this point if nothing worked out we could still be friends. If she was sleeping with other people and not being upfront about that will all go out the window. However I don't believe she...is just my opinion.
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