lastresort Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 STBXW left in January, it took me until about the beginning of June to figure out what the problem was. I turned into what she wanted me to be and i wasn't happy. I think most of us men try so hard to please our wives that we forget about ourselves. I forgot how fun i was and what it was like to have a good time. My STBX is a very serious person and i realized she had been holding me back for many years on being myself. Since she has left my business has doubled and i have become a much happier person. My friends and their wives have all commented on how I am the person i used to be. We were never invited to BBQ's or outings with other couple, well my friends. Her friends always had us and she would complain to me that I did not interact with her friends. I am an artist and they are all biologist and researchers. BORING PEOPLE!!! Guys do not let your ladies hold you back any longer. Get out and enjoy yourselves and be yourselves. I have not been happier than I have in the last months. Read my posts from February, I was angry, scared didn't know what to do. I cannot wait for the papers to get through that court so i can be "SINGLE" again. I have found a girlfriend, you will too. I never thought it would happen. My new girl is awesome and understanding of me. We are in the same field and we have started working for/with each other. The great thing is she was one of my clients at one time and now we are both divorced and found each other again. KEEP YOUR CHIN UP MY FRIENDS!!!
Tryin Hard 2 Make It Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Great Story!!!! Mine is similar in the way i changed for the worst. My old self is coming back and the good times are on the horizon. Soon i will be fully healed and who knows what will happen! Good for you!!!!
andyg99 Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 if your old self disappears then that's a bad sign...when we can be ourselves and our spouses can be themselves that is when things work out!
2.50 a gallon Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 In a way my story is similar. I was a bad boy player when we met, I drank too much, and partied 5 out of 7 nights a week. Her estranged father was an alcoholic, and she set out to change and tame me. When I saw this goddess of a woman walking down the aisle to be my bride I totally fell in love with her and changed from a dedicated pussy hound to a future father and family man. Six months later it was over, I caught her kissing another man, and her flaunting her affair in my face. The following month was the darkest of my life. The future was pitch black and scary, leaving me wondering not that would I ever be happy again, but wondering if I could even laugh again. That is until this pretty face looked down at me and asked me if I wanted to come out and play. With that the old me came back in a flash. If your recovery turns out to be like mine, you are in for a helluva good time. More important, in my renaissance, I unlocked parts of me I never knew existed and was lucky enough to find the real me I am curious, what has been the affect of the return of the old you on your STBXW?
worldgonewrong Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Terrific update!!! I like hearing stories like this. YES.
Author lastresort Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 2.50 the stbx doesnt care. She is happy to be done with me as i am with her. We are still friends and always will be as we have 2 great kids together. She is not a bad women just not the right one for me. I am probably not the right one for her as well, well thats forsure. I have noticed her texting me and calling more often but usually not for good reasons. Spent today with the new girl and we had a blast hanging with the kids, left my phone at home so i wouldnt have any distraction when i am with her. We are taking really slow not wanting to damage any of our kids. They are numero uno to me. I even took us all to a lifelong friends BBQ and all my friends and their wives were so stoked for me to find someone cool. She intereracted with my friends more than my wife did in the last 5 or 6 years. Cannot wait to see what the future has in store for us. We both have the same views on what our future should hold.
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