dave22 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 So I met this girl last October through a friend. Right away I could tell we had good chemistry but I was seeing someone and apparently (I found out later) she was too. Both were long-distance relationships. I broke up with my girlfriend a couple months later, I think her relationship was not going well (we never discussed it very much) and we started hanging out a lot as friends. It was always obvious that there was some pretty good chemistry just below the surface, though. About three months ago she was looking for a place to live and knew I had a room at my place I was wanting to rent out. I agreed. At the time I had some doubts about whether it would be a good idea, given our chemistry, but I decided to ignore that. Well, her boyfriend broke up with her soon after and about three weeks later she asked me if I liked her as more than a friend, I said yes and said we should try dating. It was a pretty passionate couple of weeks, and she started to say we were getting too serious. Things slowed down and I thought they were okay but a few days ago she said she couldn't be in a relationship now. That she wasn't ready. I said I wouldn't try to change her mind. The thing is I wasn't really over my ex-girlfriend when this all started. A few times I think I tried to scare her off a little just to keep a some distance and I guess it worked. I liked her a lot and still do, nevertheless. I feel horrible about it, because I know we had such great chemistry and got along so well. I was really happy with her. I think she is someone that very rarely comes along. She says she likes me a lot too, but isn't ready for something serious (which is hard to avoid when you live together, obviously). And she also said today that she has been wondering if I like my ex-girlfriend better than her. I admitted to her I had been thinking the same thing over the last few days and realized I had to forget the past because I really like her (my roommate that is) and the other girl really doesn't matter to me anymore. We also agreed that she will move out as soon as possible (she may stay with a friend for a while first). Its a bad situation, I know. We have both said we like each other a lot and she told me in the past that one of the reasons we were going to fast is that she thought she would want something serious with me and that she just wasn't ready for it. So how can I handle this and keep the option open for us to try again, just more slowly (and not living together, obviously)?
Author dave22 Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 Is my story really so messed up that no one has any comments? Anyways, we talked about it tonight and I think we have settled things for now.
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