Teknoe Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 LoveShack guys, this is for you. 5 steps to invest in your own stock, raise your confidence and raise your odds of finding and keeping the woman of your dreams: 1. Education 2. Career locked down and secure 3. Be cultured (get off your butt and see different cultures, travel) 4. Work out (don't need a 6 pack but should be somewhat fit) 5. Get your own place (buy a house, a condo, etc.) See this video for more in-depth analysis on these 5 steps that will RAISE YOUR STOCK AND CONFIDENCE THROUGH THE ROOF 5:50-6:23 says it best. Do you want a girl who you will be with for 2 months, or are you looking for a relationship that will last? Best of all, if you do these 5 steps you'll feel accomplished, and you did it YOURSELF. Why not try the 5 steps? No harm in trying. Fact of the matter is, most people want a relationship so much they obsess over it. But another fact is... most of these people are lacking themselves and have little to offer a significant other. This is where you got to humble yourself and admit you're not where you should be at in life. It's about knuckling down and taking care of those 5 steps. If you don't, you will continue to experience pain and continue posting similar threads on LS throughout the rest of this year and into 2012 while being insecure about who you are. Quite obsessing over girls, LS guys, and work on those 5 steps instead. You'll be glad you did. And believe me, I'm still working on some of those steps myself. Last summer I went to Africa, and that was an awesome experience. I stayed with a pastor's family for 2 weeks, and it's something I'll never forget. Learned a lot, learned a lot about that culture and met some great people. Personally, it saddens me when I see all these obsessive threads about how to get a girlfriend, leagues, what should I do now, etc. They all lead to the same path: overanalyzing, unhealthy obsession and a dissatisfaction of where you are in life. Let's try to complete the 5 steps instead! Then you'll see your stock and confidence EXPAND infinitely... and you won't be so insecure or wondering about leagues or how to get your crush to like you back. You'll be self-secure and good to go, with or without a girl. And that will attract for you a pretty nice young lady, trust me
verhrzn Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 And what exactly should girls do? I have all of those things, and it hasn't gotten me anything.
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 LoveShack guys, this is for you. 5 steps to invest in your own stock, raise your confidence and raise your odds of finding and keeping the woman of your dreams: 1. Education 2. Career locked down and secure 3. Be cultured (get off your butt and see different cultures, travel) 4. Work out (don't need a 6 pack but should be somewhat fit) 5. Get your own place (buy a house, a condo, etc.) See this video for more in-depth analysis on these 5 steps that will RAISE YOUR STOCK AND CONFIDENCE THROUGH THE ROOF 1. Got one already. Going back in Fall 2012 to get my Masters. 2. Almost got it. Applying for federal government positions in the industry that I'm in takes months but I'm fairly far along the line of getting there. 3. Yup I'm cultured. Speak a few different languages, I'd like to travel more, and I will once I get the money. Otherwise I'm fairly good with "culture". 4. Been doing this for a few years now. I'm in good shape. My friend's girlfriend told me "you have really big arms". 5. That's going to come once I get some money. Honestly, these are good goals, but I know plenty of out of shape, nowhere career and education guys who live at home who still get girls. Fairly good looking and smart girls too. Confidence while somewhat connected to the five things you listed, does not come directly from them. Seriously, I have absolutely no confidence around women despite having 3/5 of this list down. Good luck to anyone else, but I've given up for a while.
Stockalone Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Let's try to complete the 5 steps instead! Then you'll see your stock and confidence EXPAND infinitely... and you won't be so insecure or wondering about leagues or how to get your crush to like you back. You'll be self-secure and good to go, with or without a girl. And that will attract for you a pretty nice young lady, trust me You should really change will attract to might attract. There is no guarantee that following that 5-step-program will have the desired results.
Star Gazer Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 There are PLENTY of people, including several right here on LS, who have all 5 of those "steps" locked down who are the most neurotic and insecure people on earth. It takes a lot more substance than an education, career, heavily stamped passport, hot bod and a piece of real estate to have good self-esteem. All that stuff is just smoke and mirrors, and external things.
Author Teknoe Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 You should really change will attract to might attract. There is no guarantee that following that 5-step-program will have the desired results. That is true and a good point. On 2nd thought, I agree with you. But again, the point of the 5-steps should be to emphasize #1 personal self-growth. It should not be used as a tool for getting a woman, because YOU need to come first. Sorry if it was misinterpreted or written to convey as a means to an end (of finding the right one). It's more about becoming the right one. SG, it's true these are external things, but are they not points of reality in the real world? Would you marry a guy who only has a part time job, or no job at all? Would you marry a complete 350 pound slob? Would you marry a hermit who has no social functions whatsoever? I know these are extremes, but people with those 5 (compared to those without the 5) are simply more appealing. Of course, there is also something to be said about one's personality and character. I'm just saying focusing on these 5 rather than obsessing over crushes on LS is a more time-productive goal for a lot of the LS guys who post here. @ verhrzn, expand your social circles. get involved with your local community, church or other social functions. many matches are made through friends' friends.
Art_Critic Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 and here I thought this thread was about investing in the stock market The easiest way I have always found to raise my self confidence is doing things for myself that I have always enjoyed..ie : a wood working project of something like that, the improvement had always been automatic for me.. So invest in yourself...
bac Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 LoveShack guys, this is for you. 5 steps to invest in your own stock, raise your confidence and raise your odds of finding and keeping the woman of your dreams: 1. Education 2. Career locked down and secure 3. Be cultured (get off your butt and see different cultures, travel) 4. Work out (don't need a 6 pack but should be somewhat fit) 5. Get your own place (buy a house, a condo, etc.) As a female, I agree with the steps. How can a guy with no education, no money, ignorant, fat, and living with his parents be self-confident unless he is not in touch with reality for some reason?
eerie_reverie Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 There are PLENTY of people, including several right here on LS, who have all 5 of those "steps" locked down who are the most neurotic and insecure people on earth. It takes a lot more substance than an education, career, heavily stamped passport, hot bod and a piece of real estate to have good self-esteem. All that stuff is just smoke and mirrors, and external things. Tru dat. I'm a case in point.
Star Gazer Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 SG, it's true these are external things, but are they not points of reality in the real world? Would you marry a guy who only has a part time job, or no job at all? Would you marry a complete 350 pound slob? Would you marry a hermit who has no social functions whatsoever? I know these are extremes, but people with those 5 (compared to those without the 5) are simply more appealing. Of course, there is also something to be said about one's personality and character. I'm just saying focusing on these 5 rather than obsessing over crushes on LS is a more time-productive goal for a lot of the LS guys who post here. What does any of that have anything to do with having self-confidence and self-esteem? And I disagree that those 5 things speak to a person's "character."
Author Teknoe Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 What does any of that have anything to do with having self-confidence and self-esteem? So you're telling me a 35-year-old guy living with his parents still who works part time (and has for the last 5 years) and someone who worked their butt off to buy their own house at age 30 has nothing to do with self-confidence? As a result of working so diligently, who would you say has developed more self-confidence: the 35 year old or the 30 year old? And I disagree that those 5 things speak to a person's "character." I never said that. I said this: Of course, there is also something to be said about one's personality and character. In other words, in addition to those 5 steps, you have to factor in one's personality and character as well.
Star Gazer Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 So you're telling me a 35-year-old guy living with his parents still who works part time (and has for the last 5 years) and someone who worked their butt off to buy their own house at age 30 has nothing to do with self-confidence? As a result of working so diligently, who would you say has developed more self-confidence: the 35 year old or the 30 year old? You're comparing apples and oranges. But really, have you been to Italy? Do you know that most unmarried men there still live at home with their mommas? I assure you, many of them are quite confident. That's just one example. Do you realize there are people who don't make much money, who haven't had the opportunities to travel the world, who are carrying a couple pounds around, who rent their homes, and who may have never even graduated high school, who are some of the happiest, most confident people out there? If you were cultured and educated, you'd know that... I hope. Plenty of people who don't meet those 5 steps are sincerely, very confident people. I don't own a home, or have a hot body, and I am very secure and confident in myself. On the other hand, plenty of people who have met all of those 5 steps completely lack self-confidence. I'd submit it's because their focus has been on the external, rather than the internal. I don't disagree at all with your general concept that one needs to invest in themselves, but I think your focus is waaaaaay off.
runner Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 i say remain true to who you are, but the best version of who you are. and you'll attract the right partner for you. the items on that list are fleeting (ie, superficial).
Author Teknoe Posted July 13, 2011 Author Posted July 13, 2011 I don't disagree at all with your general concept that one needs to invest in themselves, but I think your focus is waaaaaay off. We both agree on investing in ourselves. However, you don't agree 100% per se with my 5 steps. I'd be curious to hear your own system... what should people focus on then when you say yes, you believe in investing in ourselves? I'd be interested in knowing your own personal specific categories on how one would invest in themselves (doesn't have to be 5 steps but I think you get my meaning).
Star Gazer Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 We both agree on investing in ourselves. However, you don't agree 100% per se with my 5 steps. I'd be curious to hear your own system... what should people focus on then when you say yes, you believe in investing in ourselves? I'd be interested in knowing your own personal specific categories on how one would invest in themselves (doesn't have to be 5 steps but I think you get my meaning). For me, investing in myself means the following: Most importantly: Seeking out opportunities to challenge and improve myself physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually, by doing things I enjoy. For me, this could be practicing and getting better at skiing or golf or kayaking, or working out with a trainer and building my fitness level, or training for a marathon, or improving a one-rep max in lifting, or reading some interesting books on subjects I always wanted to learn more about, or joining Toastmasters, or doing some charity work by working with underprivileged people in my community, or auditing a class at the local UC (not for credit, just personal development), or meditating and doing yoga to get in touch with my inner thoughts, etc.Building, maintaining, and strengthening my relationships with family and friends (non-romantic).Working on and finding success in my career (which may or may not involve monetary measures).Taking care of myself physically, not just by exercising, but by de-stressing (yoga, massage, spa trips, etc.), skin care, good nutrition, decent sleep.Building and ensuring financial independence for myself - from parents and credit cards - and having a decent cushion of savings.Taking time to smell the roses and explore the world around me. Those are just some examples. You'll see that even a person with a modest income without a degree who rents and who's never left their county could do find ways to accomplish what I described above. Plus, it's a lot more FUN obtaining self-confidence the above way, than by crossing off your 5-steps. As another example, I gained more confidence running a half-marathon and going whitewater rafting, or looking at a group of 5 girlfriends in a limo and being proud of the relationships that I built with those wonderful women, than I did passing the bar exam and landing a fancy gig at a fancy law firm and being able to hob nob with the rich and famous. Know what I mean? As runner said, the things on your list are fleeting, and that's because they're external. No one can take your inner spirit from you, and your spirit doesn't come from the things on your list. Thing is, the "steps" of yours that I have identified myself as having... I'm not confident because I have them. Rather, I have them because I was already confident. It was because I already practiced the items I listed above that I had the wherewithal to seek out the things/steps (of yours) that I do have.
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