TaintedHeart Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 I actually hate Facebook at the moment. My ex never bothered with it before but since we split up she's been updating her status everyday claiming how great her life is now! She hasn't removed me or any of my family. I dont want to remove her because she will know she's got to me.. I really didn't think she would do the whole 'rub my nose in it' thing, I'm pretty shocked to be honest, thought she was better than that. Why would anybody use Facebook as a way of hurting somebody? I just don't get it!! Suggestions please..
PegNosePete Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Defriend. If that isn't enough, block. If that isn't enough, change your password to something you'll never remember. Facebook is not life. If you don't enjoy using it, don't use it.
shayla Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Deactivate your account. There are no more updates, statuses, or emails from "friends". It is the only thing that set my mind free, and if you want to back, all you have to do is sign in.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 But she will know that she's got to me.. Argh!
PegNosePete Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 But she will know that she's got to me.. Argh! And why do you give a cr@p about that?
radiodarcy Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 then make facebook vanish from your life. if you don't want to delete her - - stop looking. she'll never know. what's more, if she is in fact posting these things for your benefit - - as a way to get to you - - she's going to look like a fool because you will have stopped looking
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 What do you mean? I don't want to seem like the petty one.. But isn't what she's doing petty? Or maybe she isn't doing it on purpose, but she never bothered with facebook when we were to together so I'm pretty sure she's doing it to hurt me and aiming her statuses at me.
PegNosePete Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Who cares what she thinks? She's your ex. Do what is best for YOU and stop thinking about what she thinks. That no longer matters to you.
radiodarcy Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 well - - really, you have no way of knowing what her motivations are. maybe she is posting those things to drive you crazy, maybe she isn't. but either way, it doesn't matter. all that does matter is that it *is* driving you crazy. if you don't want to delete her then don't look at her page at all. i realize it's tempting to cave into the "what ifs" and look at her facebook but that's only going to make you feel worse. so stop looking; even if she is posting those things on there for your benefit it won't matter because you won't know about it anyway.
shayla Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Taking this action is about keeping your sanity. And gaing peace. Forget about what she thinks. Getting off FB, at least till you heal is a good way to start the process.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 Think I'll just close my account, I'm better than all those silly Facebook games, and thought she was better than that too, she obviously isn't.
fiat500 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Facebook is amazing if you're in college. Beyond that, maintaining relationships and events through it is somewhat tedious and you get less responses if you're not attending university
Mack05 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 But she will know that she's got to me.. Argh! Tainted you need to rise above this. Some people get involved in game playing, don't bother sinking to their level. It's actually pathetic. Keep your self respect, dignity and class. It doesn't matter what she thinks. Remove yourself from Facebook for you. Stop wondering what she will think of this. It's not important in your recovery.. Stay NC and focus on you. What she does and who she does it with, are not your concern.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 Why do people play games via Facebook? She ended it with me so why does she feel the need to play games and hurt me even more? I haven't updating my status nor have I commented on her's or expressed the upset she is causing, though I've been very close to texting her asking her what she's gaining. But I will not sink that low.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 I actually hate Facebook at the moment. My ex never bothered with it before but since we split up she's been updating her status everyday claiming how great her life is now! She hasn't removed me or any of my family. I dont want to remove her because she will know she's got to me.. I really didn't think she would do the whole 'rub my nose in it' thing, I'm pretty shocked to be honest, thought she was better than that. Why would anybody use Facebook as a way of hurting somebody? I just don't get it!! Suggestions please.. Don't worry about looking as if "she got to you". It doesn't really matter what she thinks. There could be a million reasons as to why you deleted her and/or blocked her. Her "getting to you" is just one in that million. I deleted my ex from facebook a month or so ago and I've been doing much better ever since. I was instantly sane again. You too will feel so much better. Trust me!
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 Yes, I'm going to close it. It's not helping me at all, it's making me hate her which I dont want, I don't want to hate anybody. Wtf though, why is she doing this, it's play ground crap!
Surf Rider Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Either delete her or delete your facebook entirely. After my ex left me, there was a bunch of drama that started on her wall. I deleted my facebook and it made me feel so much better. Trust me, if you delete it, you will heal a lot better. Good luck.
Rory12345 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 When I split up with my ex, I tortured myself with going on her profile every day which made me go back to day 1. So, I deleted and blocked her, I can say it was one of the best things I have done. I know that if I want to look at her profile I have to go through all the unblocking process which, just isn't worth it! As I can't see her page, it is a huge weight of my mind and has helped me move on. I say delete her if you want facebook still or just delete your account for a while. You'll get through this. Take it one step at a time. Cheers, Rory
TheHurtProcess Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 When I split up with my ex, I tortured myself with going on her profile every day which made me go back to day 1. So, I deleted and blocked her, I can say it was one of the best things I have done. I know that if I want to look at her profile I have to go through all the unblocking process which, just isn't worth it! As I can't see her page, it is a huge weight of my mind and has helped me move on. I say delete her if you want facebook still or just delete your account for a while. You'll get through this. Take it one step at a time. Cheers, Rory Exactly. Why would anyone put themselves through all of that unnecessary anguish just to get a little information on the ex? That's why one of the first things I did after I realized this wasn't just one of those couple day "I'm temporarily mad at you" breakups. I know nothing of my ex at the moment and I prefer to keep it that way.
Surf Rider Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Exactly. Why would anyone put themselves through all of that unnecessary anguish just to get a little information on the ex? That's why one of the first things I did after I realized this wasn't just one of those couple day "I'm temporarily mad at you" breakups. I know nothing of my ex at the moment and I prefer to keep it that way. I'm right there with you.
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