civibf Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Well! I don't even know where to start. I started posting here a few months ago when my gf had broken things off just before I was to move there for a few months between school semesters. The short story is that we had been together 8 months LD (15hr drive), saw each other every 4-6 weeks, she's in the military. 7 weeks before the end of my semester, she finds out she's getting posted to a ship (which won't sail til the end of the summer anyway). 3-4 days before I'm supposed to move there she has a freak out, can't handle me leaving my life to move in with her (even though it's just for the summer), tells me there's too much pressure, and she ends it (end of April). NOW, she ended up sailing earlier than thought and she was gone for 6 weeks. She sends me a text the other day asking if we can chat later that night. We end up speaking on the phone for 3 hours. Apparently she had just got off the ship that day and texted me first thing. We spoke for 3 hours and it felt like old times. I told her my feelings rushed back when I saw the text from her. Told her I missed her. She told me the same. She told me she apologized for freaking out the way she had at the end of the relationship. We kind of just ended the call amicably. It felt like she had something to say, but just couldn't say it. So now what!? I would take her back if she wanted. I already sent her an email back when it first ended saying we should try and give it time, but she shot me down saying she had made her decision. I feel like I want to talk to her again and ask her to give it another shot. Am I misreading the situation? Am I just setting myself up for another kick in the nuts? lol
DustySaltus Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 She contacted you when she got off the ship for two reasons. One, she was probably feeling lonely and wanted your attention. Two, she doesn't want you to hate her for what she did. This is a common theme here called Dumper's remorse. She feels sorry on how it happened, but not that it actually happened. Unless she comes to your house and says she made a mistake, there's really nothing to talk about. LD relationships are a ton of work. Initiating conversation with her will only prolong the healing process. Stick to NC, read the links in my signature.
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