LSChic Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 (edited) I go to law school in new york city but I'm spending the summer in southeast alaska. About 7 weeks ago I met a guy here. He's incredibly smart, good looking, and outgoing. At the same time he's quiet and solitary and needs a lot of personal space. We spend about 5 days each week exploring the mountains and fishing for salmon. It could be a picturesqie romance except he's often aloof and not very affectionate. When we're not in bed together he treats me like a friend. I've been having pretty intense feelings about him for the past few weeks, and today we were just sitting in my living room watching tv and I realized suddenly that I was in love with him. I've been in love twice before and never doubted that it was the real thing both times. I know what love feels like and this is definitely it. Neither one of us wants a long distance relationship. I am 100 percent sure that our relationship will end with the summer. Also, I don't know how he feels about me. I'm pretty sure he just sees me as a friend with benefits. Still, people in love often feel the need to express their love...or at least I do. I'm leaving in three weeks. I am contemplating leaving him a letter when I leave that tells him that I love him but don't expect anything to come of it. That way I won't ruin the rest of the summer if I get a rejection. Another big part of me feels like a letter just wouldn't be adequate. What do you think? Should I write a letter for after I leave, tell him now, or never say anything? I know I can't have a relationship with this guy, I just want him to know how much I care about him. What would you do? Edited July 12, 2011 by LSChic
Ruby Slippers Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Personally, I probably wouldn't tell him, but would leave with great memories of a fun summer fling. But if you must, I would tell him in person, in the last few days. Prepare yourself for the possibility that he does not feel the same way. If I were going to do this, I would tell him how I felt, but put no pressure or expectation on him to express the same feelings in return. I'd just let him know I had a wonderful time that meant a lot to me. If he wants something more, he'll make it clear. If not, he'll make that clear or be evasive (which is actually clear). Good luck.
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