midna210 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 So I was dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, and I told him I needed a break, he took it as breaking up and he didn't talk to me or anything for 2 months, Last week I called him to tell him something and we had a long conversation and he said he still loves me, but now he won't even talk to me. Now, he's seeing this girl, and I want to know how to get over him. Help please
Chi townD Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 okay hate to break it to you but... taking a break= breaking up. and that's EXACTLY how he took it. You can't blame him for moving on with his life. I strongly suggest that you maintain NC with this guy and start to heal. That means no more texts, phone calls, emails and facebook.
Author midna210 Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 It's hard to get over it, but you're right, NC whatsoever !
lonelynyc Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 You haven't really given a lot of context... If you can articulate it, what was your reason for wanting time apart in the first place? As a man who was recently dumped by his girlfriend of 2 years, I will try to address your situation. It sounds to me like the break up hurt him deeply. He clearly cares about you, but that's not substantial enough of a reason for him to just forget about being dropped 2 months ago. If he still misses you, it most likely means his current girlfriend is a rebound. You have to think long and hard about what you want. If you love him so much that you know he's the man you'd eventually like to marry, you have to just lay your cards out on the table, and make him realize that he means the world to you, that you won't just drop him again. WARNING: this approach is extremely dangerous, and there is a good possibility he'll reject you. Still, if you love him that much, you'd regret not saying so for the rest of your life. If you don't feel for him that strongly, just wish him the best and find someone you can feel that strongly about.
Author midna210 Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 The reason I decided to break up with him was because I was stressed out (job, friends, etc) and he didn't seem as happy, He told me he wanted to be with me forever and get married and all that stuff, so this gives me the idea that maybe someday we'll be back together but I'm not sure, and I don't want to try that because I know he won't pay attention to me, I think he got over me though. :l
lonelynyc Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 I'm a romantic, and going through my own situation at the moment, so my perspective has a very specific skew to it. It sounds like you're not ready to give your all to a relationship. Getting back with him in the near future wouldn't erase the issues that led to the break up to begin with. Just remind yourself on a daily basis that by being single you're doing what's best for you at the moment. And it will just have to remain that way until you're ready to put in the time and energy to make a relationship work.
Author midna210 Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 I guess you're right, but how do I get over him? It's hard.
stray Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 There's no magic strategy to get you over him. It just takes time. And accepting that it's probably, totally over. It's going to take a few months (more months). It's just the way life works, unfortunately.
lonelynyc Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Believe me, I wish I knew. My hope is to get to a place where I can forget all the negativity and bull**** surrounding our break up and remember/appreciate the good times. We just have to get to the point where we consider ourselves lucky to have known the person, even if things didn't work out. That's just how this works I guess.
Author midna210 Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 Thanks guys, I'll get over him eventually Life goes on with or without him.
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