suckered Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 My boyfriend and me have been together for 6 months. He always blows hot and cold between how much he contacts me and wants to see me. Some weeks it's all the time, others it's barely any. I am aware that some variation is normal but with him it's more than that. Last few weeks, things have been on a steady decline. We didn't fight but every time we were together, we barely had anything to talk about. I feel a great deal of distance from his side. He still sometimes texts loving things but it feel like he is going through the motions. He is going on a work related trip and will be away for 2 months. Originally we were both in love and were keen to do LDR during that time. He leaves in a few days and we were supposed to spend them together. He called and canceled on me yesterday (because things are hectic) and only offered to see me on the night before he goes (and it feels like it's more out of obligation). It just doesn't seem like a thing to do in a serious relationship. He has no family and he has told me many times that I am the most important person in his life. It's off that he doesn't want to spend more time with me. I even offered to help him pack but he rejected my offer. Should I break up with him now or wait for him to end it? I love him but it feels very one sided lately.
gothowitz Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 I'm sorry to say this, but I think you should dump him. I'm very familiar with the one-sided, blow hot/blow cold situation, as it happened to me in my last relationship, and you know deep inside yourself that you neither want nor deserve that. The two-month time apart will only make the emotional distance greater. Why hold on to someone who doesn't want to be held on to and risk getting hurt more?
Author suckered Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 A part of me is angry and doesn't want to do his dirty work for him.
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