betterdeal Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 I don't see a conflict with someone having had one night stands and also having respect for your decisions / preferences not to have such. It either shows they're open-minded and prepared to wait if that's to your liking, or they are unsure of what you want and are saying "I'm easy going - whatever suits you". Most of us men don't really have a clue what we're doing. We're all floundering around trying out life, just like you are. The less time you spend fearing the worst, the less it's going to happen. If you're reticent right now, there's a reason for it, and you're maybe not ready for conventional / formal dating. Maybe you're more likely to find a less direct approach to finding love more comfortable and fruitful for you, so socialising and doing things that put you in contact with other people, and maybe, from that, you might meet someone you get along with and things grow from there. Personally, I can't stand dating sites and formal dating. It's so stuffy and contrived in my mind. It's also often arse about tit - eating a meal, then having sex? After a decent meal I want to have a nap, digest the food, maybe go have a dump, freshen up and maybe an hour later, be active. In fact, it would make more sense to have sex straight away, when you're both fresh and excited, then have a chat, some food, watch a movie, fall asleep on the sofa.
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