GivenUp0083 Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 A man meets a woman at a bar among friends at a party. They flirt for a while, talk about some interesting topics, laugh, have fun, flirt even more. The guy decides he has to meet some other friends later that night, but before leaving he says to the girl, "hey, I'm heading out, but it was great meeting you and I'd like to talk to you again. Can I have your number?" She says sure, gives it to him, and hugs him goodnight. The next day, while at a ballgame, he texts her "hey, it's ____, how was the rest of your night?" Is there anything wrong with this picture?
Author GivenUp0083 Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 Someone told me that by texting (instead of calling her) was immature and probably turned her off. I say she just wasn't interested, otherwise she would've responded. Tell me if I'm wrong.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 To me, a text says the guy is lazy and/or his interest is low to moderate. A call says he's proactive and interested. If I liked him, I'd respond to the text, but if he didn't call soon, I would be turned off.
fwang Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 A man meets a woman at a bar among friends at a party. They flirt for a while, talk about some interesting topics, laugh, have fun, flirt even more. The guy decides he has to meet some other friends later that night, but before leaving he says to the girl, "hey, I'm heading out, but it was great meeting you and I'd like to talk to you again. Can I have your number?" She says sure, gives it to him, and hugs him goodnight. The next day, while at a ballgame, he texts her "hey, it's ____, how was the rest of your night?" Is there anything wrong with this picture? Too early to tell...
April72 Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 I would just as soon get a text at first.... it's less awkward. Text a bit and if he doesn't call or meet up with you.... then go from there.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 Well I posted this on another forum, and some of the women were saying I need therapy because 2 months broken up from a 5 month relationship isn't enough time to heal and that texting is weak and cowardly and I blew my chance by texting first instead of "manning up" and calling. Just wanted to make sure I wasn't insane. Obviously the shoe is on the other foot.
aliceinchains Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 There is nothing wrong with that. If the girl thinks there is something wrong with it, forget about her, she's got problems.
grkBoy Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Someone told me that by texting (instead of calling her) was immature and probably turned her off. I say she just wasn't interested, otherwise she would've responded. Tell me if I'm wrong. That "someone" needs to grow up and join the 21st century. I've seen men and women who get angered by texts and such, and prefer things only in voice. I understand, but the only time one should make a stink is when someone won't talk on the phone and only wants to text. PLUS...if this is a girl who gave the number, she should be happy he's thinking of her and contacted her. How many women have given their number and he never called? Frankly, I probably would have done the same thing, and even asked if she'll be home later or not. THEN...I'd call her and say hi, ask how her day was, chat a bit, and ask her out on a date if I felt she was enjoying time with me. People are so hung up on all these outdated "rules".
Author GivenUp0083 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Posted July 14, 2011 I know it's not wrong, just wanted to make sure other sane people didn't think I made a huge mistake. I honestly feel good about this even though she never responded. I met a hot girl, I thought we hit it off and I went for it. I lost nothing and had everything to gain, I don't feel one bit of regret about it and I'd do it again. I thought about following up with a phone call to her a couple days later but I'm going to admit that I'm not all that excited and desperate to start dating again, I asked her for her number because of the situation, not because I was looking for a girl to hit on that night. It feels nice once you have DGAF, which is maybe the first time I've had this in my life.
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