TaintedHeart Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 I wanted to add this to my last thread but it wouldn't let me. I'm new here so bare with me. So if you read my last post you will know that it's been 2 weeks. 1 week NC. Yesterday was odd/strange/scary/weird! I boxed up all of my ex's things and put them out of sight. God it was so strange. It was like packing away my life. I did cry, alot! I felt bad, I have no idea why? she said that she will come to get her stuff in the next few weeks but I know for a fact that I wont hear from her. I keep planning and fantasizing about how she will come and get her stuff and fall for me again. It sort of get's me through the day but I know deep down that this is never going to happen. So why am I doing this to myself? I want to text her to tell her that I've boxed up her things but I'm scared that she will reply with 'It's ok, I dont want my things back'. What do I do if I dont hear from her? I'm a mess! Thanks in advance.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 I wanted to add this to my last thread but it wouldn't let me. I'm new here so bare with me. So if you read my last post you will know that it's been 2 weeks. 1 week NC. Yesterday was odd/strange/scary/weird! I boxed up all of my ex's things and put them out of sight. God it was so strange. It was like packing away my life. I did cry, alot! I felt bad, I have no idea why? she said that she will come to get her stuff in the next few weeks but I know for a fact that I wont hear from her. I keep planning and fantasizing about how she will come and get her stuff and fall for me again. It sort of get's me through the day but I know deep down that this is never going to happen. So why am I doing this to myself? I want to text her to tell her that I've boxed up her things but I'm scared that she will reply with 'It's ok, I dont want my things back'. What do I do if I dont hear from her? I'm a mess! Thanks in advance. It sounds like you need to just continue NC and maybe she will try to get in contact with you. Maybe she won't. But trust me when I say that it definitely gets easier as the days/weeks go by. I still have a large box of my exes things and it's been a good 1.5 months since we've broken up. I'm not sure if she's waiting until a day comes when she feels nothing again and then I'll get a call or what. Maybe she just wrote her things off as a loss to spare herself the agony. Perhaps it's best if she never comes to get her property. Then you won't have to break NC to give it to her.
Chi townD Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 Just send her other e-mail and say, "look, I really need to get this stuff out of here, if you don't respond to this, I'll assume that you don't want it and I'll just go ahead and donate it to a charity group." Then save the message. Heal and move on.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 I know I should let her know but I dont want to break NC and I'm also scared of her saying that she doesn't want her stuff. It makes it final and that scares me
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 Can someone tell me how to appear online?
CaliBabe Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 I would have a mutual friend drop her stuff off to her. Keep doing NC, it will get easier with time. I will tell you that each time you contact her in any way you will reopen those wounds. Stay strong!
lonelynyc Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 Yeah, I've been mulling this issue over a lot recently. It's a reverse situation with me, I have more stuff at her place than she has at mine. I don't want to have to pick up my things, or even get them in the mail or something like that because it just seems like such a dramatic and final type of thing, like there's no way back from there. Our problem right now is that we want to maintain disbelief at the end of our relationships. It's a coping mechanism, but I think we both know by utilizing it we are only setting ourselves back in the healing process. Don't think about it for now, or contact her about something like this. I made a huge mistake by speaking to my ex on Saturday... Have been in serious pain ever since.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 It's like we don't really want to move on even though we know we need to. I'm holding on to something that she's let go of..
TheHurtProcess Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 It's like we don't really want to move on even though we know we need to. I'm holding on to something that she's let go of.. I never thought about it that way. Perhaps that's why my ex hasn't returned to get her crap... Or perhaps she just really doesn't want in, haha. Well, either way, I'm glad I got all of my belongings back from her a long time ago.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 I think it's me that doesn't want to move on, she just can't be bothered to see me or even speak to me. I would understand if I actually done something wrong, cheat/abuse ect, but I haven't! She is treating me like a stranger. What the hell is that all about? Guess I'll never know.
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