Mack Trucked Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 I found and spent a few hours on this site yesterday. After reading a variety of "reasons" I guess my only realistic choice is to walk away with dignity. That may be my only chance I have to make HER turn around and follow me. This goes against every feeling I have right now, its best option even though I"m sacred that she won't miss me. I'm not really as bad as she claims I am but it is hurtful that there was "never anything good in our marriage". I'm really going to miss her! %##@^%I*IU&$%$W>>>>>>(*&&^%%^$##$@@&()_>
Surfer203 Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 I admire your courage.. I have not been able to do what you have done. You will be better off. Start off fresh - keep moving - keep positive.
tornintexas Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 Walking away with what's left of your dignity will be the hardest thing you have ever accomplished. You are essentially fighting yourself and your emotional mania will be a determined enemy. She may or may not miss you when your gone, be prepared for either situation. If you truly walk away with dignity and strength, not overwhelming anger and bitterness it will change you into a better person no matter the outcome. After you have been on the path for a while she may realize her folly and start chasing you. It will be the hardest thing she has ever done in her life to stop you, because you will be in control of yourself and can make rational choices based on logic and reason. Either way you will have transformed yourself to the better. Strength and Honor Brother.
Tryin Hard 2 Make It Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Go Forth. It is the hardest thing i have ever gone through in my life of 38 years. She asked to separate for time to figure it out. Two weeks later, after much suffering on my part, i asked her if she had given her marriage any thought and she said "kinda." I told her i had given it a lot of thought and i wanted a divorce so i filed the next day. We had been together for almost 7 years and married for almost 5 years. Never have i cried so much in my life. Neither of us were happy for the past couple of years of the marriage but she took the first step to end it. I am learning so much from this and i will use it to be an even better person and someone else out there will enjoy me. First and foremost i have to heal as you will also. You will miss her, no doubt about that but you will need to go "No Contact" as a means to detach from the relationship. It will hurt like a Mutherf&cker, believe it. Do a lot reading on this website, there is so much great info, great people and it will help you. Get ready for the journey my friend and remember there is a light at the end of the tunnel...
carhill Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Welcome to LS. Don't unzip your fly (file) unless you're ready to fµck (divorce). Since you have filed, own that. Prepare for her legal response. Leave the door open for mediation. If you stay true to your path, it's very possible she'll miss you. I know my exW misses me whenever she needs something her new boyfriend can't or won't do for her. I like that, not to be confused with acting on it. Meanwhile, I miss her not one whit. I did love her for many years but that was then and this is now. People get to own their choices. Mine were very costly. Keep us posted on your progress. Remember, if you truly want reconciliation, own the divorce path but leave mediation and MC on the table. If she cares, she'll pick up the ball; if not, get 'er done and move on. Life is short.
coolheadal Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 (edited) Mine is nagging me to death.. I wish she would shut-up about when car dealer will call me? What did they say she keep on and on about. She keeps on saying dumpster coming here tomorrow. Hint hint.. These women are no better best to leave them and go on with your life.. I ready to get my new SUV pack it up and get out of here. But I am stuck her for now with her BS! Once the cheat has happens, they're doing whatever they want and you the husband is the bad one while there new lover is the best one right now. When not with the lover they like to nick pick on us. I wish they would leave me alone. As for missing us heck they couldn't care less. If they did care about us they wouldn't have cheated or have some sort of lover in the background to go to when they fall out with use. Edited July 13, 2011 by coolheadal
Tiberius Posted July 13, 2011 Posted July 13, 2011 Well thesedays its better to be the other man. You get an input in how to raise her children and spend the child support money too as opposed paying it XD.
Author Mack Trucked Posted July 18, 2011 Author Posted July 18, 2011 I only lasted a few days without contacting her. I use questions about the kids as a reason I need to talk or text her, but I'm always the one to ask what's on the calendar. I am afraid of cutting off communication because I miss her and everything I had. The longest time between talking is 3 days. I really don't believe that she will do this (she filed).
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