KR10N Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 (edited) How does someone automatically know what their "type" is? A dumb question, I know. The whole, "you're/they're not my type confuses me. How is a person certain that the type their looking for is actually the opposite of what they really need? Or is "type" just a synonym for "dating material"? Title is suppose to say "your". Edited July 11, 2011 by KR10N
Author KR10N Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 My "type" are the things that I'm attracted to. It's no more complicated than that. There are certain traits that I will always like and certain traits that will always be a turn off. If someone isn't my type, it doesn't mean that they are a bad person or unattractive to others. It just means they aren't right for me.I think the physical part was the issue for me. Too many times I've heard my friends criticise a nice girl/guy for not being hot enough, which in-turn, was not their type. I'm not going to disrespect my friends, but their not as attractive as they think they are.
utterer of lies Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 If someone isn't my type, it doesn't mean that they are a bad person or unattractive to others. It just means they aren't right for me. This. For example, I like curvy or slightly overweight women with big boobs. It's not something I can control, it's just what I'm attracted to. I can see that some sportive, fit girls are totally 'a 10', but still I would not date them simply because... well... they are not my type. Same with personality. If she is uneducated or has no opinion on art or has no interests or hobbies of her own, I wouldn't date her, no matter how beautiful she is.
tb24 Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 My "type" extends beyond looks into what they like doing in their free time. My "type" is alternative/goth/emo girls. Generally because they tend to have more similar interests to myself.
Author KR10N Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 This. For example, I like curvy or slightly overweight women with big boobs. It's not something I can control, it's just what I'm attracted to. I can see that some sportive, fit girls are totally 'a 10', but still I would not date them simply because... well... they are not my type. Same with personality. If she is uneducated or has no opinion on art or has no interests or hobbies of her own, I wouldn't date her, no matter how beautiful she is.Just out of curiosity, are you slim?
utterer of lies Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 (edited) Just out of curiosity, are you slim? No. I was fat all through my 20ies, but I started weight lifting a few years back... But I don't think my own body is related to the type of women I like, I was underweight with 19 and already liked the same type. I suppose it's rather some freudian thing, an early childhood imprint or so. Edited July 11, 2011 by utterer of lies
Ruby Slippers Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 I don't really have a type. Yes, there are certainly physical and personality qualities that are likely to catch my attention (tall, sporty, very intelligent, meat on his bones, positive attitude, warm-hearted, blue eyes), and certain qualities that will definitely turn me off (sarcastic, insensitive, thinner than me, not smart, immature, cynical). But I will consider anyone who falls within the parameters of what I'm looking for.
Woggle Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 I knew what my type wasn't so I figure the opposite of that was what my type was.
Arasae Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 I don't think anyone "automatically" knows what their type is... Physically, maybe. But still, that can change. I think there are certain physical qualities you might be innately attracted to, and then the more you look around and become aware of what you're attracted to, you start to develop things to look for. Thus, you "develop" your "type." A dumb question, I know. The whole, "you're/they're not my type confuses me. How is a person certain that the type their looking for is actually the opposite of what they really need? Or is "type" just a synonym for "dating material"? Let's see.. My "type" would be fit, blond, blue eyed, intellectual, and 5'10 or taller. Have I dated darker men? Absolutely. Have I dated types who were not intellectual? Yes, but it ended horribly, lol. In this context, "type" is just what I tend to be attracted to. However, if I were to tell a man who asked me out that he's "not my type," it usually means "you're not dating material." Of course, I've never said that to a man before.. Generally speaking, I'll say "We're completely opposite! I do blah blah blah, and you do blah blah blah. You'd hate it when I blank, and I'd hate it when you blank." I suspect many girls will just say "You're not my type" instead of that, though.
nana841121 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Once i had a BF who was not my type. we didn't get along well.both of us blamed the incompatibility to the type thing
EliceSwank Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 (edited) rediciolus.....i don believe in "types" actually.. when you find something as per your choice n expectation in other you find him or her of your type.. and when he sometimes behave opposite to your expectation..you will feel he is not of my type... so i think its all about wht we are expaction from other one at particular moment of time. Edited July 12, 2011 by EliceSwank misspelled
Eeyore79 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 My "type" is simply the physical and mental characteristics that I find attractive. People who don't fit that type might be beautiful, and might be good friends, and might be attractive to someone else, but I personally don't feel sexual attraction towards them. Just because someone isn't my type, that doesn't mean they're not hot. Last week I saw a guy who was handsome by anyone's standards - perfect hair, beautiful eyes, fantastic smile - but I wasn't attracted to him. Sure, he was handsome, but he was slim (I prefer a man with a big build and a hairy chest) and he didn't come across as the type of person I'd be interested in. I appreciated his handsomeness in the way one might appreciate a beautiful piece of art, but he wasn't attractive to me.
NeoGen85 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Hrm.. Well, I guess I'm not picky. I don't know. I've always been a eccentric person who's been exposed to a lot of different surroundings and people. I definitely do not live in my comfort zone either. Therefore I find myself approaching many different types of women. And of course I like a lady who is compatible in terms of loving me and personality. But I've always had a unusual approach to physical attributes. My motto is, "I'll see it when I see it". And the reason why I say that is because my track record have been extremely diverse. I will admit that my parents left a very positive imprint on me while I was younger. They were advocates of equality and that's something people do not fully uphold in life because everyone is trying to get ahead of one another. But what we search for in a person whether it be personality or physical appearance is influenced by something else in our lives(and you might not even be aware of it yet). I've seen overweight women who weren't attractive to me and others that I wanted to sleep with. I've dated plenty of women outside of my race. Hell, my last girlfriend was taller then me. Reality is there aren't enough open minded people dating.
Dorie Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 I don't really have a type. Yes, there are certainly physical and personality qualities that are likely to catch my attention (tall, sporty, very intelligent, meat on his bones, positive attitude, warm-hearted, blue eyes), and certain qualities that will definitely turn me off (sarcastic, insensitive, thinner than me, not smart, immature, cynical). But I will consider anyone who falls within the parameters of what I'm looking for. Ruby Slippers best captures my opinion as I look less that specific physical qualities be present, and more than negative personality ones aren't.
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