TuffCookieX Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 TuffCookie, thanks for all your insight today. You rock. I didn't know this? I asked my doc and she said that once you contract it and it's in your bod, it will show up on a HPV test. Who knows. I never accused my man, just said "chances are" because I didn't want to make him feel too bad because I know he probably didn't know he had it. He was never defensive, just supportive, and at the end of the day I think this experience made us closer. Believe me all...I'm a New Yorker...we're definitely not naive. I'm cautiously optimistic that my man is a keeper, that's all It's no worries. I'm getting defensive because people are really closed minded and after also being diagnosed, I educated myself as much as I could on the subject and realized it wasn't as big of a deal as I thought it was. My gyno said I didn't even need a colposcopy since at 22, it's most likely just going to go away on its own. As for contracting it before your current boyfriend - I had asked my doctor because after I got the gardasil shot I had always used condoms (although they're not 99% protective against HPV like they are against pregnancy). He said that I could have had the HPV well before I got the shot and it was only coming up in tests now, or that I had a strain that the shot didn't prevent. There are so many factors and never a true way of finding out (unless you only had one sleeping partner). Instead of digging a hole to find out how and what you could have done, just live for now and protect yourself from further potential STDs of the future.
thatone Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 Thanks for all your insight today. Really appreciated. I need to think about this. Ask myself what I need to know about his sexual past, why I want to know, how it would benefit us, and will I be accepting of any answers? Once I can answer those questions, we can have a conversation and I have no doubt that he'll be responsive and it won't drive a wedge. But I think he just wants to make sure that we're having this conversation for the right reasons... those are the real questions. what's the upside to trying to beat more information out of him? what's the downside? i don't see any way the upside compares favorably to the downside. sounds like you have it pretty well figured out to me.
IceIceBaby Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 It's no worries. I'm getting defensive because people are really closed minded and after also being diagnosed, I educated myself as much as I could on the subject and realized it wasn't as big of a deal as I thought it was. My gyno said I didn't even need a colposcopy since at 22, it's most likely just going to go away on its own. As for contracting it before your current boyfriend - I had asked my doctor because after I got the gardasil shot I had always used condoms (although they're not 99% protective against HPV like they are against pregnancy). He said that I could have had the HPV well before I got the shot and it was only coming up in tests now, or that I had a strain that the shot didn't prevent. There are so many factors and never a true way of finding out (unless you only had one sleeping partner). Instead of digging a hole to find out how and what you could have done, just live for now and protect yourself from further potential STDs of the future. That's half the problem with HPV...condoms are only about 70% effective in preventing you from getting it from someone, it can be transmitted from skin to skin contact. So your boyfriend could very well have had protected sex and still gotten it. And since there's no test for guys he could never know he had it. Alot of women have it and they never know either because their bodies fight it off and it just stays dormant in your body. I tested positive for HPV about six months after I starting dating my current boyfriend and it's turned into cervical dysplasia. It sucks and I'm definitely not happy about what I'm going through, but I'm not going to hold it against my boyfriend. He didn't knowingly give it to me and always had protected sex in the past. He also had an STD test before we started sleeping together, and everything was negative. Too bad it can't detect HPV too. And I also can't be positive it came from him. It can stay in your body for years and come out when your immune system is down or when you're stressed. To the O/P, on a side note...you should try taking a multivitamin, as well as additional supplements of vitamin A and folic acid. Both are known in helping keep cervical dysplasia away. If you're on a birth control pill, chances are your body is lacking folic acid and folic acid is necessary in proper cell division. Just some info for you.
ChessPieceFace Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Chiming in here with 2 things: 1.) There is a very easy and fairly accurate test for male genital warts (which I believe is really how you would actually get HPV anyway), involving acetic acid i.e. vinegar: http://www.cdc.gov/std/treatment/2006/genital-warts.htm 2.) I'm a virgin and I think I might still have genital warts? Perhaps I'm being paranoid, and I have not tried the above test yet, but I have had warts other places (hands mostly) from as early as I can remember, and I seem to have those types of bumps down there. So if I do have them, either I was molested as a baby (which is possible I guess) or it is not proof of sexual activity.
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