detailed reason why it is a terrible idea to break nc with an a$$ clown

[TheHurtProcess]

You know what sucks? All this bitterness you have towards each other. That's what's really sad here. No denying you both loved each other very much at one point. I think you both need to let it go and do some growing up. You're definitely hurt, and so is he. And I don't know why you're laughing? Hurt feelings, letting go, moving on, broken hearts, love lost, isn't fun. Maybe when you both can dig a little deeper and be honest with each other without trying to gain any ground, then you should talk.

 

I totally respect your opinion bro. I'm not trying to start an argument of any sort. But, I'm sure you know and understand that some people just have different ways of moving on, getting over someone and healing. It's quite obvious that we tend to laugh the pain away. I suppose it's better than getting angry or crying over the situation. Personally, I got sick of being angry and sad a long time ago. Sometimes we just have to laugh it off and not be so damn serious all the time.

[HeartOfAPhoenix]

You know what sucks? All this bitterness you have towards each other. That's what's really sad here. No denying you both loved each other very much at one point. I think you both need to let it go and do some growing up. You're definitely hurt, and so is he. And I don't know why you're laughing? Hurt feelings, letting go, moving on, broken hearts, love lost, isn't fun. Maybe when you both can dig a little deeper and be honest with each other without trying to gain any ground, then you should talk.

 

I totally respect your opinion bro. I'm not trying to start an argument of any sort. But, I'm sure you know and understand that some people just have different ways of moving on, getting over someone and healing. It's quite obvious that we tend to laugh the pain away. I suppose it's better than getting angry or crying over the situation. Personally, I got sick of being angry and sad a long time ago. Sometimes we just have to laugh it off and not be so damn serious all the time.

 

 

Oddly enough, I agree with both of you .

[TheHurtProcess]

Oddly enough, I agree with both of you .

 

Yes, as silly as it may sound. I also agree with him as much as I agree with myself. I definitely respect lalalandman, his opinion and I totally understand where he is coming from. But, I also understand that there's not one specific way to grieve.

[vsmini]

OMG - I swear we've dated the same guy. He sound exactly like my ex. Ugh. painful. Don't ever engage with him again.

[HeartOfAPhoenix]

OMG - I swear we've dated the same guy. He sound exactly like my ex. Ugh. painful. Don't ever engage with him again.

 

 

... I'm soo glad I'm not an assclown ex boyfriend haha.

 

 

everyone bags on this guy on an internet forum where he can't even defend his actions. I'm not trying to defend this guy, he sounds like a total assclown. Just find it funny that maybe 5 or 10 years down the road he might be suffering from massive heartache, find this forum, then recognise the emails.....

[Sugarkane]

This guy reminds me of my own assclown ex. Sounds like something he would do too.

[Mack05]

You know what sucks? All this bitterness you have towards each other. That's what's really sad here. No denying you both loved each other very much at one point. I think you both need to let it go and do some growing up. You're definitely hurt, and so is he. And I don't know why you're laughing? Hurt feelings, letting go, moving on, broken hearts, love lost, isn't fun. Maybe when you both can dig a little deeper and be honest with each other without trying to gain any ground, then you should talk.

 

I don't agree with this at all. I get the point the Lalalandman is trying to make. I just don't feel it's real life. Ideally it would be great that every relationship that failed was broken up face to face. Then you had a 2 month 'cooling off' NC period that was strictly abided by. Then you meet up and two things would happen.. A) You agree to try again or B) You both accept it wasn't meant to be and respectfully say good bye to each other. Sadly matter of the hearts are not that simple. Especially when your ex is behaving in an appalling manner.

 

I have no doubt Bikini is hurting a lot today. One of the most hurtful things to experience is when somone you loved shows that, not only do they no longer respect you as a person but leaves you wondering did they ever respect you. The way this guy spoke to Bikini is beyond disrespectful. I have been in Bikini' shoes, as in my ex completely no longer respects me as a person. Most of you know, she come onto these forums and launched a scathing personal attack on me. Did it hurt? Yeah. It hurt a lot. But I spoke to my friends and family about it and they said things that made me laugh. Does it mean I'm not hurting still? No, it still hurts. It will hurt for sometime. But I forgave and have moved on. Getting back to my point.

 

Laughing at something is just a temporary way of coping with hurt. It helps you validate that the two of you just weren't right together. It helps you gain acceptance that despite all the memories, the feelings, the special connection that both of you are just not compatible. Sure there is more back and forth to come for bikini, maybe where she remembers the good times, and then she will remember the way this guy spoke to her. Eventually will come a day when she is over him and she is able to forgive her ex for his mistakes. Forgive herself for her mistakes and then move on with her life. There is nothing wrong when we are hurting to have some anger (we eventually let the anger go), just as there is nothing wrong with having a little laugh along the way to healing..Lala it would be great to break up and leave each other in a respectful and courteous way. It's something I have always tried to adhere too, but sadly life is not that simple...