browneyedgrl Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 Hey everybody, I just found this site. I was wondering if I could get an opinion on something. My boyfriend and I were talking and I said something like "you definitely can push my buttons sometimes!" as in, he knows how to get under my skin if he tries, it was just a playful statement. Then he said, "you haven't found my button yet." I didn't know what he was talking about and he said he has "one main button" that "if pressed he will explode." I asked what it was and he said his sister. He said if anyone ever tried to hurt his sister he would really mess them up. In the past he said the same thing about me (that he would mess anyone up if they ever tried to hurt me) so I mentioned that, but then he said, "Yeah, but if my sister was ever in trouble, I would leave you here immediately to go to her." I mean, to me that is normal to leave the person you're with to go help a family member or a friend who is in trouble, but with the way he said it, it was like he was trying to inform me that I am not as important as his sister. Maybe that's not what he intended... it's just how he made me feel. Because I would really hope he would do the same for me (if I was in trouble and he was with his sister, he would leave her to help me, for example). He's talked about her before, how he feels a strong urge to protect her and in the past he's said he cares about me like he does her, but this comment made me feel weird. Is this normal, am I overanalyzing it? Is it normal for him to feel closer with his sister until we are perhaps married in the future or until his sister gets older (she's maybe 18). Or should I worry about always being second place to her?
SnowandStars Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 His sister is more important than you. She is family. They grew up together. You are just his girlfriend and his love for you is different. Now if you were to marry him and become his wife and mother of his children, I could see a good amount of that protection extending to you. Until then, he is right. It is always good to see brothers who are very protective of their female relatives.
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