wsupflakes Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 we've been together for nearly five months. im 19 and he's 22 turning 23 this year. he is my neighbor lol i moved 9 months ago and i began talking to him. he's such a sweet guy. he wants to become a health coach so he is going to attend an institue in iowa. so heres the problem... we began hanging out with my older sister but i though he liked my sister so i had backed off, later i had found out that he liked me but didt know how to et passed my sister. we began txting back and forth for a month or two. my sister read my txts when i was sleeping and got jealous and upset. she called him a loser and didnt know what i saw in him. mind you, she told a roomate who told me. i told my aunt who lives underthe same roof that i was going to hang with the neighbor for a bit. she said ok so i proceeded. my sister came home and started blowin up my phone as to where i was? i didnt respomd because i knew how upset she would be. i ended up telling her when i got home. anywho, another time he invited me to lunch, i asked my grents if i could. i ended with a 2 hr lecture as to not be so easy with guys. and that i shouldnt trust them because he could just pick me up and rape me and kill me. i was like wtf. so i ended up not going. the next day, my mom who lives in another state called me and asked who were my friends were... out of no where. i told her i have a guy friend at school and a guy friend next door. she quickly questioned me about him and told me to stay away because is it afghan mix norwegan. she didnt want me to start liking this afghan guy because according to her, they r crazy. im asian. i didnt like what she said. so ofcourse i didnt listen to her. i give people chances based on how i feel about them and he was a sweet guy. so i proceeded to talk to him witout my grents or my rents knowing. my aunt helped me go on 1 date with him in which he had made strike outs with her (she now dissaproves of him) first date we went to watch a movie but he had took a nap amd he missed my phone call so i went to go without him, then we went to go eat sushi and when it csme to paying, he said ohhh i see youre not making a move... lol he was joking to me but my aunt surely didnt think that was appropiate. another time was when it was early in the relationship, he had talked about him tryna be out of his playboy stage (meaning flirting with other girls when he was dating me) so my aunt read tbat txt and so she hated him ever since then. i talked to him and told him i didnt like that, he said h didnt understand, mind you; im his first reL girlfriend, he thought no harm was done. later, a friend of his started flirti g with me and he did not like that what so ever so he finally understood wbat i meant. he was insecured then, needing the act of flirting with other to feel like he is worthy. later did he realized he didnt need that anymore now that he is with me. so now that no one allows me to see him, i decided to sneak outto see him. i did this for about a month before i got caught by my sister who ratted me out but wont admit it. hell broke lose and they think he is a bad guy. they think he is a loser because he doesnt go to school and that he does kung fu. and takes walks during he summer half naked and barefooted. they wanted me to stop talking to him but i didnt understand why. he wanted to pay for kung fu classes for me but my family didnt want me to be invovled with him and said nothing in life comes free. meaning he wanted my booty. i went through hell when i got caught sneaking out. evveryone wanted me to stop talkin to him. but during those nights that i snuck out, i started to fall for him and see who he really was. he was a guy whos intelligent, funny, cared about me, was willing to do anything to see me if i had asked him, helped me with my essays in which he stayed up all night to do so, he took me to yoga class because i had no ride even if it meant for him to be late to work, he was wanted to take me to school but i denied because my family wouldnt like it, he was always there when i needed him. but we had to continue our relationship secretly. i told him my family dissaproves of him and his mom read his txt and came over to my house and started. supposely yelling at my family tryna get them to understand he is a good kid and that he fell during a ice hockey game, therefore he is super sensitive. this happened when i was at school so i didnt know who to believe. all i knew was that i loved him amd he loved me. but after that happen i was scared . i didnt talk to him for 3 days assuming that we had broken up due to external forces. (my family) he was sending me clues discretly through his fb statues that he still loved me . he ended up msging me on fb about our status because he didnt know whT to do. i told him that im not allowed to be with him so we would have to be secretive about it. he agreed even though he wNted to tell the truth . 4 months later he's still by my side. when i went to class, we would sometimes meet up at my school to see each other. he would bring me food and gifts. then on the 3 month i started sneaking out to see him by climbing out of my window. until 3 days ago, i got caught because i had over slept 2 hrs. so my family found out, and hell broke loose times 10000000. they never wanted me to be with him since the first incident. i try to persuade them but they kept saying he's after my booty only. they think he's crazy in the head so they fear for their lives. he has done nothing yet to prove thAt to me. hes loving and caring and is willing to do anythimg for me. he just wants me to be happy. he has yet to ask me for amythint. but once i got caught they hated him to the fullest even though they never gave him and i a chance ever. i lied for the sake of calmness for the fAmily. maintained a relationship with the family and with my boyfriend. but now that i got caught, they want me to choose between my fam or him. i still dont understand why they didnt give him a chance. :/ my family says i dissrespected them to the max by not listening to them when they said stay away, he's crazy..... well i had lied again to them. i told them that i wont talk to him anymore... but we are maintaining a secret ldr. until im financially stable, i will move out to be with him. my mom had said if i wanted to be with him right now, she would not talk to me anymore and that i would lose a family and to never return... :/ since im not finacially stable, i told her ill pick her. i love her to death but she wont accept the fact that this guy makes me haooy. we are aligned with each other, like he is my other half. he is still by myside knowi g how much my family dissaproves of him. am i doing the right thing? im so confussed and lost. :/ i love him but i love my family too. the fact that they dont care that im happy with him because according to them, he's playing a game to get me away from them and that he's crazy and that hes only after my booty... its been 5 months that we've been together and he's still supporting me. he even lurchased my plane ticket home because my mom wanted him to. it made no sense but he did it anyways. oh the day i got caught, my grents called me a hooker, stupid, icant survive the real world, and that i was always horny.... wtf. this lasted for 5 hours of them yelling. i tried to get them to understand but they thought i was a joke and laughed at me. my grandma said im playing a game with him and so she wanted to fight me. she had tied me to a chair and attempted to cut my hair but i was fed up with them putting me down so i screamed my ass off out of frustration and threw the chair and a cup.... still, they laughed at me and said i sounded like a horse . also im killing my family by my actions and by staying eith him. i dont understand what kind of caring or loving they call this. :/ help me understand. :/
madjac74 Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 His family should disapprove of you. Seriously I had to skim your post because it was atrocious (horrible). Try using paragraphs, capital letters, a dictionary because your writing could blind someone. Also I suggest you grow up and stop using this guy and focus on schooling rather than any relationships.
creighton0123 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 It seems like you just crammed an entire season of "Brothers & Sisters" into two very long paragraphs. You're 19 and you seem wrapped up in a Jerry Springer meets a Montague and Capulet smackdown. I agree with Madjac. Step away. Focus on your education. You might discover that this hostility towards your male neighbor stems from your family not taking you seriously because your priorities are all messed up. Sorry to be harsh. I'm not siding with your family or with you. You're 19 and still claiming that going out at night is "sneaking out". Perhaps you should act (and write) like it.
oldguy Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 His family should disapprove of you. Seriously I had to skim your post because it was atrocious (horrible). Try using paragraphs, capital letters, a dictionary because your writing could blind someone. Also I suggest you grow up and stop using this guy and focus on schooling rather than any relationships. :)Cut her a little slack about her writing, her first language is not English. I believe it is Viet.
Author wsupflakes Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 disregard this post. i was in the worst place when i wrote this. sorry for the inconvience. thank you oldguy lol.
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