edu Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 This is my first time to this site..I would appreciate guidence. My GF of 4 years dumped me. She was seeing someone behind my back and I found out. She prefered him. I was devastated. I pleaded her to come back but she refused. I went into depression to an extent of hyper ventilation and single episode depression and was admitted to the hospital. when I came out, i searched for answers in the net..Most told me to go NC.. I went on NC. It felt better. After a few days she called from private no and heard my voice and hung up. It went on for a while..Then she called once and cried but she does not want me and want him..Persistantly she calls and hangs up..I am in a situation that I cannot change my number...Few days she wont call, then the calls start coming in..She also informed me that she had stalked near my work place..What does she want and what should I do? Pls help me out on this issue...
Yamaha Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 She doesn't want you to hate her but she seems pretty determined on leaving you. I would keep with the NC and when she calls or txts just don't answer. She will get the message and stop in due time. It sucks after 4 years but you can't make somone be with you. Lean on friends and then get back out and date when your ready.
Author edu Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 thank u. i miss her so much. i would love to have her back.. what should i do?
wilsonx Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 You are going to feel like that for a long time, but I am going to give you a suggestion and it's your life and you can choose to ignore it, take it in full stride, or take bits and pieces of it and mix it with other stuff. #1) GO NC and stick with it, dont answer anymore calls from private numbers or your ex or friends of your ex. Hardest thing you are going to do. Took me over 3 weeks to stick NC. #2) While you are trying to lock down NC, you want to keep yourself busy. Start exercising, finding new hobbies, find a new job, something to keep your brain from dwelling. It's going to for a long time but it will go down and down and down over time. Reconnect with OLD FRIENDS, call up all the people you haven't talked to since you were with your ex. Trust me, they will talk to you. #3) After about a few weeks into NC you might see the relationship for what it really was. Not as good as you expected it to be, but you will miss your ex. I still miss my ex and she cheated on me twice. I don't miss her as a gf but as the best friend that I once had years before we were dating. #4) I'm going to tell you right now, if she calls you back and says she's sorry and wants you back. Don't do it. You are not the same person as you were before she broke up with you. You are actually weaker. The relationship will fail again. Don't believe me, read the second chance forums. Try to let her go and start moving forward. The rest is up to you. This has helped me through a similar process.
Author edu Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 Thank you Wilson..Should I start dating other women now? maybe to substitute her?
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