sedona Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I woke up this morning and told my BF that we had to stop seeing each other. He agreed. I think he is so stressed out because of overwork that he can no longer think straight. He changes jobs in November, so we were hoping to make it until then but just couldn't. I've given him the hardest thing I could ever give him - distance from me. For the moment, this is just a break. Still, I deleted him on Facebook - not because I care about him reading my info, but because it would be too painful for me to read about him. He's not a huge FB user, and there's a good chance he might not even notice. Still, should I explain to him why I deleted him when I see him next? I love him and don't want him to think that that's changed.
Ajax Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Hey Sedona. I'm not familiar with your story. What was happening to make your relationship untenable? You mention that he's overworked and couldn't think straight. Was he neglecting you in some way? Did you feel like he was checking out of the relationship? As for it being a "break," breaks usually end up being breakups, and it's probably best to treat this as such.
SugarLily Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I wouldn't tell him about deleting him on fb. Well done for doing that btw! If he sees what you've done - it will have more impact on him, and make him realise how serious you are about not contacting him. If you spend ages trying to 'justify' it - which is really not necessary - he may think that you are being petty, and just trying to 'make a point'.
Author sedona Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 (edited) Thanks for your replies. Yes, he's been pulling away for a few months now (3 year relationship) and he has no idea why. This is something he has to figure out for himself and I have to give him the space in which to do so. This has been incredibly painful to me because my feelings haven't changed. He says that my love for him might be part of the problem -that he doesn't do enough for me. And maybe that he is just not cut out for any long-term stable relationship. I realize that breaks usually end in break-ups, which explains why I am still awake and crying so much! And you're right SugarLily - I really didn't delete him to hurt him, but to help me. He's just very different, and would be pleased to read about how I am. I, on the other hand, would like him to be happy even if we're not together BUT I wouldn't want to know anything about it. A bit difficult because he's always in the newspapers. Edited July 10, 2011 by sedona
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