Untouchable_Fire Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Woah! Seriously? :eek:I'm hardly the Wicked Witch here. Just because I comment on someone that's had an affair with more class & tact than some of the BS's here does not make me wicked. Commenting to HELP a WS does not make me wicked. Being a FORMER.......WS does not make me wicked either. Just for the record. Memphis has always picked at me. I was just thanking him for the title. I was making reference to your avatar... and I believe you picked that one for a reason. I would not describe most of your advice as classy and tactful. I don't even believe you provide advice to the OP... I think you mostly post to irritate those BS you hate so much. As you are an overall champion of moral ambiguity... I cannot agree with what you say. I reject the idea that hurting other people is Ok so long as it serves my own selfish desires. Adultery is a form of sexual abuse and it's results are terrible. I have dealt with many other types of abuse... neglect, physical, emotional, verbal... ect. None has had the long term effect that being cheated on does. Cheating takes my good traits and uses them to hurt me.
Space Ritual Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I'll come back and post an update when I grow" balls " to choose my path to hell / heaven. Thanks again everyone! LOL...TOTAL TROLL... If you are real you have the Bedside manner of Joseph Mengele.....
StoneCold Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I was making reference to your avatar... and I believe you picked that one for a reason.. Yeah it probably has to do with the fact that shes from Kansas and the Wicked Witch is from the Wizard of Oz...You know that movie with the main character whos from Kansas.... Thats just my stab at why thats her avatar... Adultery is a form of sexual abuse..... :lmao::lmao: ROTFLMFAO.... ok stop right there.....that tells it all. LMAO...goodlord I have dealt with many other types of abuse... neglect, physical, emotional, verbal... ect. None has had the long term effect that being cheated on does. OK well thats you... I however am willing to go out on a limb here and say that there are far far faaaar more people that think that the other "types of abuse" you mentioned are far worse and way more damaging than being cheated on....
dreamingoftigers Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Cheating was the worst for me too. I have a permanent scar on my arm from when my h and I got in an altercation over his cheating and he bit me. I wish that he would have bitten me instead every time he wanted to go cheat, even if it meant a bunch of permanent scars all over my arms and legs.
dreamingoftigers Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 DOT.... I admire your perspective a lot. You are literally a better human being than I am. Your combination of compassion and strength always amazes me. I seriously hope that someday amazingly good things happen for you. Thank you very much. I am wading into the deep end of the pissed off pool today but I can still see that really wonderful things have happened to me, just not with relationships. Keep an open mind to women, if you create a narrow door for them, then only the kind you perceive can enter, catch my drift?
OldOnTheInside Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 My favourite character was the Tin Man... Adultery is a form of sexual abuse and it's results are terrible. I have dealt with many other types of abuse... neglect, physical, emotional, verbal... ect. None has had the long term effect that being cheated on does. Cheating takes my good traits and uses them to hurt me. Sexual abuse? Maybe. I can see it as possible emotional abuse though. Betrayal. Feelings of inadequacy, and self-esteem damage. Inability to trust. Shame. Anger. Depression. Ect. Depends on the relationship the WS and the BS have, as well as their individual personalities. Anyways, I'm amazed that this thread is still going on (although I'm helping out). An entertaining but unsubtle trolling attempt.
StoneCold Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Sexual abuse? Maybe. Maybe? C'mon Old... we dont agree on much but I thought you would be smarter than this. Here is a definition... sexual abuse n. 1. The forcing of unwanted sexual activity by one person on another, as by the use of threats or coercion. 2. Sexual activity that is deemed improper or harmful, as between an adult and a minor or with a person of diminished mental capacity. A little more for your reading pleasure.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_abuse
OldOnTheInside Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Maybe? C'mon Old... we dont agree on much but I thought you would be smarter than this.Maybe is my default answer to most things. Too much time spent around lawyers remember?
ladydesigner Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Maybe? C'mon Old... we dont agree on much but I thought you would be smarter than this. Here is a definition... sexual abuse n. 1. The forcing of unwanted sexual activity by one person on another, as by the use of threats or coercion. 2. Sexual activity that is deemed improper or harmful, as between an adult and a minor or with a person of diminished mental capacity. A little more for your reading pleasure.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_abuse i agree with this sexual abuse goes far beyond adultery. I would say adultery is more of a form of physical and emotional neglect. At least that's what it felt like for me while my H was cheating.
bentnotbroken Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 i agree with this sexual abuse goes far beyond adultery. I would say adultery is more of a form of physical and emotional neglect. At least that's what it felt like for me while my H was cheating. I call what happened to me..emotional, spiritual and physical abuse. But I think everyone is going to call it what they need to. Some will say it is nothing, others abuse, some like yourself will label it neglect. Since we feel things generally the same but specifically different because of differing experiences, there won't be a consensus.
nofool4u Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I just don't get woman...divorce him, and quit using him...of course he doesn't want a divorce...not many of us good,loyal, faithful guys do a spot on post. plain and simple
SerenitySeeking Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Oh, for crying out loud, divorce the guy. You've been unfaithful and are no longer attracted to him. Time to throw in the towel and file the papers. There is no such thing as your husband won't let you. If one person wants out, there is nothing the other can do to prevent it. I agree. Once you decide to D there is nothing that either party can do to stop it although it can be prolonged. The only reason you are staying is because you are not getting what you want exactly when and how you want it. Simple and basic. It also the reason behind being unfaithful. If you could have everything you wanted straight away you wouldn't be here seeking answers. The ink would already be dry on the D papers or you would not have been unfaithful. I'm not being mean just honest. Once you are honest with yourself over your actions and the reasons behind them you will find it a lot easier to make the decisions that you need to make. The confusion you are feeling right now is due to not knowing if you will end up in a better situation after you leave your M - and your M is such a comfortable safety net isn't it? Once you are honest with yourself and commit to a course of action you will feel a lot better and it will end up saving you months of hurt. And remember that you are hurting your H and cheating him out of much more than your emotion. You are cheating him out of time he could be spending finding the right person for him.
nyrias2 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I call what happened to me..emotional, spiritual and physical abuse. But I think everyone is going to call it what they need to. Some will say it is nothing, others abuse, some like yourself will label it neglect. Since we feel things generally the same but specifically different because of differing experiences, there won't be a consensus. PHYSICAL abuse?? which part of an affair is PHYSICAL abuse, inquiring mind wants to know.
bentnotbroken Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 PHYSICAL abuse?? which part of an affair is PHYSICAL abuse, inquiring mind wants to know. Only your mind wants to know. Since so many others get it. Abuse in the sense of exposure to STD's. Abuse in the sense of how the body responds physically to extreme stress. I hope that answers your inquiring mind.
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