gothowitz Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I posted my story a few days ago here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t286288/ I was just wondering, for the guys out here, how true is this "rubber band theory"? What's your opinion on a situation where the girl doesn't notice any signs pointing to a break up (after five months of dating), but the guy suddenly pulls away and just flat out ignores you for a week?
EasyHeart Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Wow. Dramatic much? He just spent FOUR DAYS with you. Of course he wants some alone-time. He's your boyfriend, not your cruise director or your babysitter.
daphne Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I think perhaps you should relax a little and leave him be. He'll contact you when he's ready and not busy. You'll know soon enough how he feels whenever he does contact you. Sometimes, people do need me time. I'm one of those people. I usually try to let the guy know, but not everyone communicates it well.
Forever Learning Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 i completely disagree. if you've been together for 5 months and then after a camping trip you don't hear a peep from him for a week, that's weird. and rude. yes some people need more space than others. but usually THEY SAY SO IF THEY NEED IT. not just sudden silent treatment. so ok, let's say he calls later and everything is just groovy with him. WTF? this represents a communication problem between the two of you. It's not cool for you (and for most people). But for him, he thinks everything is hunky dory? No. It would mean you two have a real misunderstanding of what kind of a relationship you have together. I think he is dumping you, prepare yourself. Make the call, leave a voice message, tell him you need to talk about what's going on. It's common decency. I'm not sure he has it though. I think he's breaking up but doesn't know how, or you are on the back burner while he pursues someone else. Just my 2 cents.
Author gothowitz Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 Thank you, Forever Learning. I do feel that he is being rude to me, especially after my text message and few attempts to talk to him on the phone. I think that if he really did need "me-time" and care about me and our relationship, he would've already said something to prevent me from thinking that his pulling away is something I should be worried about.
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