SmileFace Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I recently had a meeting with a therapist. It was a short session but we discussed some of my relationship history and my tendency to act on impulse. Anyway long story short she mentioned one way to get over this is to keep at it. I told her I cut all dating and any type of relationships out of my life for the time being. I know how to live when single, my life is easier to control this way. She told me this wouldn't work, that I am suppressing the problem instead of working on it. I can see what she means but won't I just end up in the cycle I was in before? Pushing away any guy and keeping them at arms length? I don't understand how I can successfully date and all she can tell me is keep at it. /rant How exactly do people stop being impulsive?
mo mo Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 I think she means she wants you to get used to the idea of having a guy around. Kinda like practice. Unfortunately, if you are really impulsive, you're either gonna go through a bunch of situations where you meet a bunch of guys and let them down, or you are going to really test someone's patience.
Author SmileFace Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 I think she means she wants you to get used to the idea of having a guy around. Kinda like practice. Unfortunately, if you are really impulsive, you're either gonna go through a bunch of situations where you meet a bunch of guys and let them down, or you are going to really test someone's patience. How exactly is it ethical to "practice" on somebody?
mo mo Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 How exactly is it ethical to "practice" on somebody? Well don't worry about the ethics of it too much cuz the fact of the matter is a lot of guys are not going to have the patience so a relationship would never work out with them anyways. If you do find a guy that has the patience, then what you need to do is realize you have something special, and then when you get these sudden impulses, repeat to yourself like a mantra "xxx is really special"
Author SmileFace Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 Well don't worry about the ethics of it too much cuz the fact of the matter is a lot of guys are not going to have the patience so a relationship would never work out with them anyways. If you do find a guy that has the patience, then what you need to do is realize you have something special, and then when you get these sudden impulses, repeat to yourself like a mantra "xxx is really special" You know YOU replying to this isn't making me feel much better, right?
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